Start afresh??? Big Joke!

[aussieguy]

hey orcabel, i went through a similar situation,
all i can say is trust your gut feelings and instincts because they are usually right!
i made the mistake by questioning my own by making excussues and living in a bit of denial, i will never do that again! obviously of there is no spark for intimacy and you have to resort to looking at his bank statements then there is something wrong, dont beat yourself up about the statements i have heard of alot worse. its a horrible thing not knowing hey! like clynn said, hold your head up high! there are bigger and better things just around the corner for you! dont spend too long looking at the door that just closed or you will miss the one that has just opened up for you! everything happens for a reason, you will see!

[orcabel]

thanks, aussieguy!
I just need someone to affirm my decision and give me confidence to lift my head up high.
You really made my day!

[aussieguy]

no worries orcabel, glad i could help!
let me know how everything is going for you.

[orcabel]

i'm so vulnerable now....
i must stop thinking of him!!!

[Converse]

Just try and keep busy.

[orcabel]

I've been trying for the whole week.
I'm just so lifeless and restless.
Nothing perks me up nowadays.

[aussieguy]

you need to get rid of everything that reminds you of him, and surround youself with people that are going to support you, but not people that are just going to remind you of him. i was the same when i broke up with my ex, didnt think i could live with out her, everything reminded me of her, blah blah blah..... so i just completely cut myself off from everything that reminded me of her including mine and her best friend just until i was over it. trust me it gets easier! do stuff out of the ordinary, stuff that you wouldnt normally do, keep active, join a gym or something. but dont isolate yourself.
you feel lifeless and restless because there is a void there, your whole world is upside down at the moment. be strong! i promise it will get easier! keep your chin up!

[Only-virgins]

Dump him.

Well, in his defense, going through his bank statements is not cool. That's spying. I can't say much more.

Whocares?

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[orcabel]

you need to get rid of everything that reminds you of him, and surround youself with people that are going to support you, but not people that are just going to remind you of him. i was the same when i broke up with my ex, didnt think i could live with out her, everything reminded me of her, blah blah blah..... so i just completely cut myself off from everything that reminded me of her including mine and her best friend just until i was over it. trust me it gets easier! do stuff out of the ordinary, stuff that you wouldnt normally do, keep active, join a gym or something. but dont isolate yourself.
you feel lifeless and restless because there is a void there, your whole world is upside down at the moment. be strong! i promise it will get easier! keep your chin up!

Aussieguy, thanks for your encouragement.
I'm trying to paint my room and buy some new furniture to replace the old ones. Hopefully, a change in the physical environment will also bring a new change to my emotional well-being.
I'm just taking each day, one at a time.

[aussieguy]

thats the best think to do.
you will be supprised what kind of an effect a little change can have.
hope it goes well!
keep me posted