I agree. And I'm definetly working on doing this now and when I told him how I felt about it all and told him even though he says he may never do this again I ahve to make sure our daughter is taken care of no matter what... ANd he agreed with me. He does understand why my trust has been depleted more after this weekend and he is 100% aware of it.
I do have another account that he does not have access to which luckily I didn't have to use anyways, but I did this a long time ago to make sure if things ever got sticky anywhere our daughter would be ok. I didn't set it up for situations like this, but it was specifically for our daughter and I'm glad I did it.
If you can't handle the thorns, don't crave the rose!!