In love with best friend? help

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Ok well I'm new here and this is my first post so HEY.

Well here is the situation, There is this girl that I have been friends with for like two years, during those two years she had a boyfriend. Right before summer of last year they broke up for good. My friends all said she woudl be so into me when they broke up and I guess I kinda got the idea in my head. I can tell this girl anything and everything we can talk for hours on end and she tells me that she feels the same way back about telling me anything and everything. We talk about everything and we never run out of things to talk about on the phone. So about 3 weeks after they broke up it was killing me and I wanted to tell her how I felt and when we were drunk I kinda told her and Like I never got a straight answer back really. So I confronted her about it agian and I dind't get a straight answer that time either (we were sober this time). So at this point i'm just really sad and dissapointed becuase I gues i'm just that best friend that is a guy to her. Well when ever I see her at parties or if we go and she is really drunk she really starts to flirt with me most of the time. Sometimes there are these smalls things that she is hinting that she likes me and stuff but I think I just get confused, I guess she was talking to her friend and said that we are just friends and that it. That really got me down. I dont ever want anything to come between us to change anything but I think I love her.

Sometimes I think she is playing games with me, like I'll call her and we will talk for a while and she will be like can I call you back I need to do something or whatever the reason is, well half the time she never calls back, and for her birthday I was outa town so when I came back I got her something that I made, just so it was different, Well My birthday was about 4 months ago and she didn't get me anything, and I even said something about it like 3 days after when I did have my birthday and she said well you were a little late so I will be too, well here I am 4 months later still with no birthday present.

I dont know I really confused about her.

And if nothing is gonna happen between us I jsut want to get over those feelings and just be best of friends like we are ( or were)

And sometimes I wonder becuase I just add up all the stuff she has done like not getting me a brithday present and always saying she is gonna call back and never does, and some other little things I cna't rmemeber right now and I jsut wonder to myself like what the heck?

I don't i know this is poorly written but can you guys shed some comfort for me on this?


Thanks alot,

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Oh and one more thing when she does not call back I dont go and call her, i've done that a few times and I thought wtf am I doing i'll wont say a word to her until she calls back, so sometimes a weeks goes by and I wont call her but will randomly get a call back


kinda wierd

[Pears]

It's good that you don't keep calling her back if she doesn't respond to you. If you did, that would be being clingy and stalkerish.

From your post, I take it that you are way more interested in her than she is to you. She thinks of you as a good friend. You think of her as more than a friend. That's the reason you care more about giving her presents and calls than she is the other way around. She already said that she doesn't want to be more than friends with you, so it's best not to push her. If you try to make her like you or keep telling her that you like her, she may want to distance herself from you. That will jeopardize the friendship. If you want to be friends with her, then you'll have to get rid of your deeper feeling for her.

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i dont blame you for feeling like that.

ok lets put it this way. you are being her best friend, but she isnt putting the effort she should to be your best friend! dont put up with that dude!

if she didnt give you an answer when you told her you liked her then she prolly doesnt wanna take the relationship to bf/gf thing.

if she is that important to you and you think she is that great of a friend, stop telling her you like her and dont call her for a while. let HER call YOU. find someone else to like. im sure there are plenty of girls out where you live to get involved with. many of them will return your calls and tell you they love you too! it doesnt sound that easy but it is possible and i know you can do it!!

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I've only brought up me liking her twice and that was like 6 months ago, So for now back sixth months ago I have not mention I have just acted like it never happened and like She tells me we are best friends and she never wants to lose me as one, she is even gonna come and enroll at my college. I dont know it all these little things she does that makes me thing she is just playing hard to get. Sometimes I think she does not call me on purpose, becuase its not like she is forgetting about me Cuz I am friends with her close friends and she talks about me all the time :-/ for for some odd reason I have this dream all the time that when I get a really deep relationship with another girl as like gf/bf she is gonna realize how she misses me and is gonna put me in a big place between her and the deep gf in my dream, i've had it a couple of times now.

I dont know I just wish I coudl erase my feelings for her like that,

Like when I'm with her she is so sweet and fun to be with and stuff. Like I jsut totally forget about her not calling me back those times and things.

Like last night at the beach we sat on the life gurad post thing and talked for like 2 hours jsut watching the ocean, MMMmm That is what all my friends have said "just go get another girl" Its not that hard becuase i'm pretty damn picky when it comes to girls. So there is my rant on it hah

But ya I hope I could get some more advice...

thanks,

[lilwing89]

dude if she realllllllllly liked you, she wouldnt forget about you and she would call you 24/7!

she wouldnt play hard to get.

and here is my rave, im picky with girls too lol. but i got a gf. so its possible.

my biggest suggestion is listen to your other friends! you got some friends! usually people on here dont have any friends and they come here for someone other than themselves to pick them up off the ground and make them into a better person. im sure your other friends will pitch in and try to help as much as possible to hook you up with her if you really want her!

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Hah

Ya I got alot of friends I just felt like looking on the interet on a forum for some perhaps different advice, But I knwo that is what I gotta do, just find another girl to get this girl off my mind, I just can't seem to find anyone right :-/

Well looks like imma gonna have to go chick hunting,

I really need to hear this stuff from people other then my close friends, thanks alot

anymore advice is welcome...

thanks,