Originally Posted by
beeper107
Okay, I'm confused now. I have a feeling I'm mostly to blame for this problem, but I need you guys to tell me the truth.
My friends and I went back to the bar twice this week. He was working both nights, but in the bar section, and we sat in the dining room. So Tuesday night, we're sitting there, and I keep seeing him walk back and forth in his section. I got up to go to the bathroom, and walked right by him, without making eye contact or smiling or anything. I can't help it. I'm so scared of him, I don't even know why. I think it's just cause I don't have my friends around to protect me.
So that was Tuesday. Last night, (Saturday, a busy basketball night, keep in mind), we're sitting in pretty much the same spot we were on Tuesday. He must've seen us come in, and he came over when our food arrived. He said he was planning to come and sit with us, but didn't want to while we were eating. We told him it was no big deal, but he said no. So I said, you could come back later, and he said he would. He never looked at me the entire time he was talking to us. I was sitting on the other side of the table from where he was standing, too. That didn't bother me until later.
So we sat there until about 12:30, wondering when he was going to come back over. Our food seriously came at 9:15; we were done by ten. My married friend, who I was sitting next to, even got up to go to the bathroom, and sat on the other side of the table, with my other friend, so that I was sitting by myself. Therefore, when he came back over to sit with us, he'd have to sit with me. That was smart.
Unfortunately, he never came back over! The bar cleared out at about 12:30, and he was sitting over at the bar a few times by himself, and we kept checking to see where he was. I think we creeped him out a little. My friends kept trying to get me to go over and ask him when he was coming over, but I was too chicken. They wouldn't do it,either, which was kind of disappointing. We even made several jukebox stops and nothing.
So now I'm confused. Does he think I'm a snob? Why can't I just smile at him? I think I'm having verbal diarrhea. I can't stop obsessing about this. Does anybody have any advice for how to get over shyness? I know I should just do it, but if he's sending me these signals that he doesn't even acknowledge me, I don't want to set myself up for failure. I'm really confused.