Newbie here with an important ?...

[GWarren]

Ok heres the deal, I met this girl at college on the bus going home. We had some MAJOR eye contact going on. Then as the weeks go by, I would see her every once in a while, we would have the MAJOR eye contact every time, but I never said anything. I had some possible times where I could have approached her, but I had no " fellas" to do it. Then when I finally mustered up the courage to talk to her the next time I saw her, I wouldnt see her that week. Long story short, it took me like 5 weeks to talk to her when I finally saw her. It turns out she lives at my apartment complex. I was going to check the mail, then I turn around and shes walking up with a smile on her face and says...hey, whats up...we had small talk, but since I was in shock that she lived there, I didnt get her name or number . Then the next time I saw her, I got her name, then the next time, I got her number.....FINALLY. Anyways, she gave me her number on Tuesday. I know all the rules about waiting and all that, but I decided to call on that Tuesday because Spring Break was the following week. She didnt answer and I left a message. So the next day, Im on the bus in the back about to head home. Then she comes in and sits in the front. I know shes there, but she doesnt know Im there. So its a perfect time for me to find out whats going on. So when we get to our apartment, I get off from the back exit and she gets off from the front. I walk straight like I dont know shes there, just so I can see if she approaches me. My plan almost works perfectly but I looked over too soon. Still, she was walking towards me and when I looked at her, she was smiling and said HEYYYY(excited)...she said she didnt call me back because she was working till midnight and didnt know if she could call me back so late. So Im calling myself an idiot for not saying she can call anytime in the message. When we start talking, I give her a one-armed hug, then we have some small talk, then she says shell talk to me later bc she was gonna go to sleep before her next class. So I waited a day, then called her again on Thursday afternoon(so she hopefully wouldnt be at work), but alas, still no answer, so I left another message and this time I said she can call anytime. No call back, then we had spring break. Now were back at school and I dont know what step to take next. I mean, I asked her if she wanted to go out, she said sure and gave me her number...I didnt ask for it...she just gave it to me. With all of the eye contact and excitement that I see from her, I dont think shes jerking me around. So my real question in this life-long process of trying to go out with this girl, is should I call her again and when, or should I just wait till I see her on campus again??? Sorry for the LONG, LONG story, but this is really getting on my nerves. Thanks for all of your help.

G

[Pretender]

I don't think you should call her anymore, but what you can do is accidentally run into her at campus or in the complex and have small talk. You've called her like three times and she hasn't called once. I dont know that it necessarily means she isn't interested but if you keep calling and dont get a call back it makes you look desperate.

Play it cool suave cat, just wait til you see her next and be like so how about we go out friday to a movie. Make an exact date and time so she can't wiggle out of it. If she says shes busy ask her when shes free.

[GWarren]

Thats what I was planning on doing. I just wanted to see what some other people thought I should do. I usually see her on a Tuesday, Wednesday, and/or Thursday. Yeah...I will def. make a definite date and see what she says. But you see, I have conflicting opinions here...a girl...friend of mine said that I should call sometime this week. Then others say not to call again....but I will just wait till I see her...Thanks...now to get this crap off my mind.

[sfalexi]

Jesus. That WAS a long story.

Talk to her. If you're going to run into her, talk to her. If not by accident, make sure you do. And set a date in person. She's less likely to say no to your face. And then when you DO go out, show her a good time so she'll defenitely want to go out again.

As for calling her, I don't see why not. You called before spring break. As you only got her number JUST before it, chances are she had made plans for spring break MONTHS before it so can't put them aside for 'the guy who just got my number'. You're not quite priority #1 yet. You have to work your way to get there.

Good luck getting the date.

Alexi

[GWarren]

Well, I went against others advice and took sfalexi's, I called her today and she didnt answer....and I left a message. Then I said Im done with this girl, Ill just get the other girl in one of my classes, which Ive been thinking about. Then exactly 5 minutes later that girl called back....I was very, surprised. She was in a rush bc she was going to class, and then has to go to work. She said she would call me back at 9 when she got off. Well see if she calls. At least its a step in the right direction...she friggun returned my calls.

[jerzygrl]

Did she call!?!?!? haha.

My roommate is a guy (who gets a lot of girls) so i learn so much about the "games" from him. His rule on calling: call twice. If she doesnt call u back then forget it. We call it the "2 call limit"

And, if she didnt call u back (which she did) but if she didnt, then if u ran into her give her a casual invite like "we're having some people over tonight-- u should stop by" then that puts it in her court to get ur number. she will if shes interested...

[GWarren]

Naw, she called that one time for like a minute....but she didnt call back at 9ish. Oh well, im not worried bout it. Ill just wait till I see her...then Ill found out what the hell the deal is. Anyways...Ive got 2 other girls at my disposal...so Ive got them to get my mind off of the one I really want. Im not a girl...but Im pretty sure if she was screwing around with me...then she wouldnt have even called me...oh well, enough thinkin bout this, time to get another girl .

[XFactorNo9]

I'm having an experiance very similar to yours... I don't wanna push things, but if i don't there's no progression. what to do?

[dubu]

As hard as it may be, I agree with the advice given above. After calling two-three times and not getting a call back, you should probably restrain yourself from calling again and try to forget about her. If she really likes you and wants to talk to you then chances are that she won't wait so long to call you back. Just keep it cool and hope for the best.