I need some advice.

[Pretender]

You should definetly lose that excess baggage. You gotta have self respect for yourself hunny and you gotta be strong. You are worth a lot more than a guy that can't stay loyal. Give yourself more credit and go out there and find a guy that will treat you like the princess you are. No more excuses for lame guys that don't treat you the way you deserve. Just get rid of him and when he says why are you breaking up with me tell him your friend said he was holding hands with another girl. If he's gonna hold hands after you've only been dating four months with another girl then imagine what will happen in a year. Respect yourself.

[sfalexi]

I'm going to assume the "stupid stuff" he got grounded for was either drinking or smoking the marijuana.

But that's neither here no there.

It's very simple. He has no reason to hold that girl's hand. Let's see. She wants to hold his hand, he could easily say, "Sorry. I have a girlfriend." And she says, "It's just holding hands." And he could respond "I'm not comfortable with that." End of story.

But I'm willing to bet he didn't mention you at all. I'm betting that he WANTS this girl interested in him (otherwise he WOULD avoid her and/or tell her that he already has a girlfriend).

In my opinion, he's no longer at your school. So he doesn't see you anymore, so he wants to move on. He probably figures it isn't worth it to have a girlfriend he can't get together with except on weekends. Especially if you guys were/are fooling around at all cause then he'll be missing that during the week. And if you weren't, he's probably got friends who are fooling around with girls and wants to get some day to day action of his own.

I say make his choice very easy. You can't babysit him during the week and won't know what he's been up to. And he's already proven himself distrustful. So if you continue to go out with him on the weekends, he might find a girl and tell her he can only meet during the week and he'll be playing you along with her at the same time. Very easy for someone to do that. And if he seems to be dating already, chances are he KNOWS it'd be easy to do. And will do it, given the opportunity.

My vote is to break up.

Alexi