I really do need some advice...from everyone....from all perspectives. I'll try to make this as short as possible.
My boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together...that is for sure now. My dad is looking at investing in real estate (a condo/townhome/small single family residence)....and letting me live there, with a reduced rent, and I would be a co-owner. This means that I wouldn't be throwing my money away month after month if I was renting...and once my dad and I sell the property in the future, after he gets his down payment back, he and I will split the profit from the sale.
My dad hatched this plan about 3 weeks ago, basically a few days AFTER my boyfriend and I started talking about living together. I haven't been dating this guy for very long officially, but I know him very well. My parents also think that I've been dating him longer than I have (that's what I told them in preparation for telling them that he and I will be living together....they'd think I was crazy to want to live with someone after so short a time).
So I guess what I really mostly need advice on is how to tell my dad that I want my boyfriend to move in. My dad is really doing this for me and my daughter...so we can live in a nicer neighborhood for less money. But if my boyfriend lives with me, we could afford more...blah blah blah. I want to tell my dad sooner rather than later, just in case he decides that he doesn't want my boyfriend living with me, so he's not going to do it....I don't want him wasting his time looking for real estate. I've got to find a really nice way of telling him, "Dad....either way, Bobby and I are going to live together....so you can help us or not...." I just don't know the most tactful way to say it....
I DO have another option though....my parents are divorced...I'm living with my mom right now....she was married to my dad for 25 years and knows him very very well. I COULD tell her about my plans and ask her how SHE would deal with it.
I just don't know....I need advice and perspective on this situation....it's stressing me out...