A tale of woe and misfortune...

[sfalexi]

Glad I could be of some help. Take some time off, don't contact her (it'll just hurt more) and relax to get over it. And just learn from your past relationship so you can have a better one in the future.

Alexi

[jane]

Originally posted by IceQueen
You didn't come here for advice, you came here for validation.

ICE! Good to hear from you!


and well, sadly she right .. you are looking for answer I dont feel comfy giving... .. sorry.

I think that once a cheater, always a cheater. Its really easy to say that she wont do it again.. but how often is that true?

I am sorry... and I know that this all hurts but I think there is some well thought out advice on this thread.. and if anything.. at least you know that there are other people who have been through what you are going through and can relate.

Take care of yourself, put yourself first.. no one else will.

[squirrley]

Listen buddy-that wasnt just meant for you...

he knows who I am talking about too!!

[ChRoNicWeAseL]

Hey, thanks guys. And I'm glad you came into this, jane. I looked at the other posts and you seem to know alot about pretty much everything, watch my posts please, I may ask for you. You're like an un-bitchy version of ice queen. Squirrly, now I get you. Thanks! Sorry about that. Alexi, thanks for being a stand-up guy, I'm making her read what you wrote today, but don't worry, I'm gonna be a cold, heartless zombie. No smiles here.

[sfalexi]

Be strong. No doubt she'll burst into tears and cry out how that's not how it went at all. But while it may not be exactly what happened, she didn't stop it from starting. And therefore she wanted it. And that's what matters.

Alexi

[jane]

Originally posted by ChRoNicWeAseL
And I'm glad you came into this, jane. I looked at the other posts and you seem to know alot about pretty much everything, watch my posts please, I may ask for you.

... why thank you...

Honestly, I dont know that much.. i have just been through alot over the years... I will try and give you as much guidance as I can.

Be strong and know that if this relationship continued .. you would be the one crying ...

Good luck and keep us posted.

[ChRoNicWeAseL]

Ice Queen, I've got to say, I'm dissapointed. Everyone's always saying "where oh where is Ice Queen." There you are! Well... I guess your entitled to your opinion. I just wish you wern't so judgmental. And don't start a fight over that, I just figure if you bore an open mind, you would realize, after reading my posts, that, while part of me was looking for validation, no part of me was playing the victem role. Whiners and victems disgust me, I will never be one. I don't know why you feel the need to attack me, since you are obviously intelligent. It makes me wonder what your life is like. Would you like to hear an equally closeminded and judgmental statement from me? Here goes;

You are pathetic. You assert your power by attacking people. You build up a formidable following and reputation on an internet based love forum, and you attack with your fans around you. You have no call to judge me like you have, there is no doubt in my mind you would think I was great if you knew me, but there's no way you can know that I guess.

You are intelligent. I wouldn't even question that. But don't think you can judge me. If you swoop down in all your frosty glory, and decide to grace my meager little thread with your commments, don't expect me to be impressed when you shove it up my ass. I'm new here, remember? Your voice is not the voice of god to me. And I probably called you way wrong, but hey, I know you sure did.

All I want is someone to say, "hey, I'm going through the same thing. Here's what you have to do, and so and so helps with the pain." That's it. I don't give a damn what you think of me, you are so wrong, and it bothers me that you would even think you could read a couple paragraphs I wrote, and label the pain I've gone through all this time with "victem role" behavior.

[jane]

[ChRoNicWeAseL]

Why the shocked look, Jane? Not dissapointed in me, I hope? Would you be insulted repeatedly and take it? I might, if I didn't feel so strongly about the topic at hand. Don't worry, I'm not that much of a bastard usually, that was an outburst.

[jane]

Im not shocked really...

I will not defend Ice because I think she can do it herself... but I will say this.
Although she is very blunt ... she is straight and to the point and plays with all her cards on the table.

I, for one, can appreciate that. I may not agree with her all the time and I think its easy for people to sugar coat how they really feel, but I know that when Ice gives advice... there is NO grey area.

Her voice is appreciated on this forum, at least by me. We def see things differently sometimes .. but I think she was being honest and trying to give you advice straight. I know you may think that it was bitchy or whatever.. but trust me .. she is def trying to help..

I know I said I wouldnt defend her... but .. well.. I guess I did. I sometimes wish I could be that blunt.. but alas.. I am way to wishy washy sometimes. All that matters is that YOU take are of YOU..

after all.. life is about mistakes, its how you deal with them that matters. Good luck!

[IceQueen]

no part of me was playing the victem role.

Title:

A tale of woe and misfortune...

Dahhlink, you have "victim" written all over you...

I don't give a damn what you think of me

Yeah. And you just spent three paragraphs explaining just how much you don't care.



Oh, and if you're looking for someone to say they're going through the same thing, I am definitely the wrong person to ask. I'm the right person to ask if you want to turn your situation around, though.

[ChRoNicWeAseL]

Wait, Ice, you're saying you have ideas to turn this around.. you've got my attention. If you think you can help me improve my situation, please, be my guest.

[ChRoNicWeAseL]

Two last things, Ice. I wrote three paragraphs telling you how much I didn't care to make a point. Obiviously it occured to me that spending that time would show I did care, but I'm new here, and I want people to know that if they are going to judge or insult me, I will be completely unmoved. And the 'tale of woe and misfortune' is intended to be humerous. Nobody's grasp on reality is loose enough to think a title like that will make people feel for you, and sympathy is not what I'm here for. Ideas are what I'm here for. So march on, if you think you can help me, I'd appreciate it.

[squirrley]

Chronic-I think you'll find everyone here is great! Even Ice-she adds more to this forum and even though its not always what we want to hear(trust me man I know...) but she makes a vaild point.
I have to agree with Jane on everything.

Im sorry you took that to offense...but you'll find people WILL make comments that are totally OFF, but when you stick around long enough and learn whose who you'll get it and real fast!

Goodluck and I hope youre doing better! Keep your head held high! And dont let anyone walk on you, especially a woman.

[IceQueen]

Aaand, marching on.

The only sane thing to do is forget her altogether and move on, there are no two ways about it.
Can you do that -- yes or no?

For tips on how to make it less painful, read my journal (there's a link under my avatar).