I am in love, and its something new..

[Lostandconfused]

Hi everybody...

I hope some of you have time to give me an advice.

Here is my situation.

I am 26 years old, and have never been so in love like I am now. I feel she is my soul mate. We met about 8 months ago, and we had chemistry from first moment. After some months we started seeing each other, we have fun and make each other laugh.
I haven’t had this kind of feelings for someone before, and I am not sure how to act towards her. The problem is that she was married for 6 years, and got divorced less than a year ago. She tells me that she has feelings for me, and is happy when she’s with me. She wants me to be patience, and take things slow. But at the same time she tells me not to fall in love with her yet, because she wants to be sure before she gives all of herself to me.
My problem is that I already am in love with her. I can’t stop thinking about her.
What should I do? She is the kind of woman I feel I could spend the rest of my life with.

Hope someone can give a lost man some advice.

[King Zarathu]

If you rush things too quickly, you might scare her off and you'll REALLY be doomed. Don't worry about it. It might not be love at this point, it could be a sort of.."infatuation" (I know that sounds really dumb but hey it's possible). If you're REALLY sure you know what you're feeling, then just give it a break. Sounds like you're being too dramatic about your emotions, just chill. Go with the flow.

[Ellynn]

All you can really do is take things slow..if you want to keep her. I mean think about it.... She just got out of a 6 yr marriage....which failed. Im sure (whether or not she wanted to end it) that its not something she thought she would have to go thru. So she wants to be careful about getting into something else with someone. She probably saw you as a friend throughout the yrs also...so maybe shes afraid of messing that up...even though she is attracted to you. So just go with the flow and go slow. If she is your soulmate....and its meant to be....it will all fall into place eventually. But let it happen naturally. Don't force it.

Its ok to feel what your feeling......just know there are no guarantees. Just appreciate every moment you have with her.....and go from there.

[confused01]

i agree with ELLYNN being in a long term relationship that just ends usually women are very carefull in their choice, so she neeeds some time in order to fall in love with you, and she doesn't want to break heart in case you fall in love with her and she doesn't or she isn't sure about it, so go slow be yourself because in this case it's better to show her exactly who you are in life, being in love sometimes lets people act different than usuall and once they get the person they are in love with they go back to normal, and usually it's a chock for the girl.
just be yourself if you want this to work!!!

[daisy]

All above are right! Don't hurry! If she asked you for slow things do it slowly! ! !

[Lostandconfused]

Thx for the replys... I feel she is well worth waiting for.. and I am trying to go slow.. But I beleive everyone knows the feeling when the person is in your head 24 hours a day..
You can't think about something else...

[blackiesharley]

Thx for the replys... I feel she is well worth waiting for.. and I am trying to go slow.. But I beleive everyone knows the feeling when the person is in your head 24 hours a day..
You can't think about something else...

All good advice here. And yeah, I know that feeling about someone being in your head and heart 24/7. I'm going through it now and feel like at long last I've finally met my soulmate.

Chin up! It's probably that at this moment in your life you're open to an instant relationship and she's at the point where she's still recovering from a divorce. You guys can work through that, but like everyone has said, it's kinda up to you to give her time, (hard as that may be) and let it happen.

Sounds like she's worth waiting for.