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[yourlovemypain]

I am a seventeen year old chica that wants this love triangle cleared up

I had a very loving, strong relationship for 3 years, and I was beginning to be annoyed by all these little habits, or idiocincricies. My best friend, for four years that has liked me all along was seeming more and more attractive, and when I finally broke it off with boyfriend number one, I went right into the arms of my best friend. He was a virgin, and I thought that was cute, and I was his first after waiting 4 months. Hes the sweetest guy, they both are/were. But now I am finding myself arguing with him and liking my first boyfriend again. I have a very high sex drive, and boyfirend number 2 just can't quite meet my needs. Plus, he doesn't know how to kiss. And then theres the, just leave them both idea, but I love them both so very much. Heres where it gets bad, I have a shared cell contract with boy 2, and I am moving in with him, and another person, and will screw them over when/ if i leave, and I would have no where to go (I DO have family, but not that I can stay with.) I have no idea what to do, or even how to begin to think. I just, I love them both, and I know the problems with going back, finding all the little problems again, or totally crushing boy 2's heart, and if I stay with boy 2, I failed to mention, that means I have been leading boy number one on.

[joe1234]

ok as a puerto rican i can understand the high sex drive, This guy is a virgin which can be both good and bad. since youre obviously a little more experienced than him it will mean more work on your part. give the fella a chance though, the fact that he doesnt know how to kiss is because he hasnt kissed anyone that was important to him yet,(or kissed at all i dunno) If you stay with boy 2 stop leading boy 1 on or it will cause more problems

[yourlovemypain]

I have been with boy 2 for over a year now, and he lost his vriginity to me after four months, and he still just cant get the grasp of kissing. Or touching. He tends to rub asymetrically, and in the same spot, which hurts, and when I explain to him, he just forgets, or doesnt get it.

[joe1234]

im sure he will learn. Get him to watch porno or something.

[Ellynn]

Yeah you have to train him!! Didn't you know that??

LOL

Ok, to be serious... If your seriously having doubts.......then I would hesitate on moving in with him etc... I know you have no other place to go....but don't you have any friends or something? I mean at least with them its less risky..
If your with this boy number 2.....and your living together and yet your having all these doubts...its gonna be very hard to pick up and leave (if you decid e to)......without totally screwing him over.. And if your truly not happy with him....then well........your gonna be unhappy yourself...

I mean yeah sex isn't everything but you definately should be compatable in that area.... Otherwise there may be problems...(as you described.)

As for boy 1......I don't think its a good idea to run back to him either.... I mean you got sick of him... I say, if you can't fix stuff with boy number 2......then move on and maybe move in with friends......and then pursue someone else completely.

[vashti]

You say you love both boys, but clearly you have no idea what love is. I think you just sound like you can't stand the idea of being alone, and you need help making the rent so are resorting to using these guys.

I think you should leave both guys and should spend 5 years or so just growing up. Buy a vibrator to take care of your high sex drive. Find a girl roommate (if you can't hack it on your own) or go home to your parents. You can't really think it is acceptable to be playing so fast and loose with guy's hearts, can you?

EDIT: I just realized you are only 17. Damn! You are too young to be living with boys. Go home to your momma and go to college. You should avoid relationships until you graduate with a degree.

[Gigabitch]

You don't want your ex back. If you go back to him, he'll drive you nuts within a month. You also clearly don't want your bf, and if he hasn't learned how to kiss in a year you're either a bad teacher or he's un-trainable.

So what's a girl to do?

Come clean. Tell your bf you don't want to date any more, and would he want to be roommates? I imagine he will see, as I hope you will, that it's easier to find another roommate than to live with some girl who isn't happy with you.

I really think you should try to find yourself an older guy. I don't mean grandpa older, just enough older that you won't be able to rule his world and play cruel games with his heart. Somebody needs to teach you emotional responsibility.