I like someone with a girlfriend!

[Cathia]

I always seem to like the ones who are already taken!

Now don't get me wrong, I wouldn't try anything on, or even flirt or try to get them interested in me, but obviously when you like someone you tend to think about them and are aware of how you act around them. I am not particularly crazy about this guy, (lets call him Juan, he’s Spanish!) just want some advice because of certain circumstances!

I don’t know Juan well, and I know he has a gf who I think hes been with for a couple of years. I’ve chatted with him a few times (we’re on the same course at my Spanish uni), hes a nice guy, friendly but I think a little shy. One of my friends mentioned she thought he liked me, even though he has a gf (who is also on the same course), as she had noticed him looking at me quite a bit. I didn’t think much of it, but admittedly I always had a little bit of a crush on him.

Last week I was on the bus to uni and saw him. We sat together and chatted for the journey. He asked what I was going to do next year as we’ll be finished in Spain in the summer. I said hopefully going to Sydney in January to work, and to my surprise he said he too was going there in February to do a masters. This was really weird, pretty much everyone in our class is staying in Spain or at least Europe and he doesn’t even speak great English. Today I was looking into my work there and was looking where one of the companies who might offer me a job are based (nothing to do with him). As it turned out though, they are right next to his uni (which isn’t even in Sydney, but much further out in the suburbs) and I just thought what a coincidence! Of course I might not get the job, but it just seems really weird that we might end up next year being on the other side of the world a 10 minute walk away from each other!

I keep thinking about it, even though I don’t mean to, especially as he has a girlfriend. The thing is I don’t want to give him the wrong impression. I don’t know him that well so am not sure I definitely like him. He mentioned to me he wants to play football there but doesn’t know any clubs, so I said I could ask some ppl I know who live there if they know of any, which he seemed grateful for.

As I wont see him again for a couple of weeks (its revision time) I was going to send him an email (to his uni address as I don’t have any other one) in the next few days just saying what I had found (otherwise I’ll probably forget and I leave soon after the exams) but do you think that’s a bit too upfront?

I am wondering what he is likely to think from it. i.e will he think its nice of me, or being male will he take it for more (which isn’t my intention)

Or having a gf should I just leave him alone (even I am just acting as a friend!)

Thanks if you have thoughts!

~Cathy~ xox

[Ellynn]

He has a gf....so I would just let it be. If you want, talk to him as a friend. But honestly I think that will make things just harder.

[bluestrattos]

He's in a good relationship! Leave him with that. He seems happy with his girlfriend, right ? Why to mess with that ?

In a couple of month, if you both be in Australia, try again to see if he's "available" or not.

[Gigabitch]

Look at it this way- you like guys who make good boyfriends, or they would all be single.

Now you just have to work on your timing.