How do i get him to realise I want him back.

[YummYMummY84]

To be honest The baby will have to fit around my life for my sake im studying bachelor of science. I love kids and have loooked after my brother from when he was little.
Im not selfish for wanting to put myself infront while the baby is little. I want the baby to have a stable life I would rather establish a relationship when the baby is young then when it is older to be honest.
I dont have men coming and going ive only ever had 2 bf's in my life and was a virgin till i was 20 so im not one of them girls to just have guy come fly past.I do not want to **** any guy and then have them leave me.
I have found that im more attractive pregnant then i was not I love my body now and i appriciate my body more now than ever and ive had to so many compliments from my close best friend both female and males.
I know my life is gonna change but Im seeing it as a next step in life and having something for me to look forward to seeing grow up and knowing i created a lil baby.So i agree with u vashti to some point as it is hard most men in thier 20's r small minded and still in the sleep and dash faze but i have found some guys to be very understanding and i have a couple of guy friends who will only date mothers as they have kids themselves so there r guys out there that actually appriciates mothers.

[Gigabitch]

Yes, but aren't you in your mid 30s? I think that things are different with men in the mid-twenties dating pool...

Depends on the guy. Yes, most of them are in the "sex-addled fool" category, but who cares about them?

Sounds like the guy is sticking around anyway, not the type to R-U-N-N-O-F-T.

[vashti]

... at least not until he finds out if the baby is his or not...

[Gigabitch]

These days, and after reading these forums for months, that makes him a prince.

[YummYMummY84]

Vashti he said he doesnt care if the baby is his or not he is still gonna be close to me as a good friend. Ive known him for 4 years. Hes not gonna just bloody run away when he finds out it isnt his. Im friends with him and his family for ****s sake if he was gonna wait till it is his y the hell would he come up drive an hour to be with me during the labor :oS
He is hoping it isnt the other guy cause he knows wat hell ill have to go through to keep his abusive hands off the baby. So even if i dont start something with him i know he is going to be there for me no matter wat.

[vashti]

Vashti he said he doesnt care if the baby is his or not .

Yeah, right. If you say so.

[drewcarrey]

man, i'd hate to be that guy... half of the time, at the back of my mind, i would be thinking "does she want me to be the baby's daddy?" or something to that effect... @vashti's right. you more important things to worry about... like how to do lamaze or something like that... LOL....

but seriously, it's unfair for the guy if you tell him that you love him at this point in time. let the kid grow a little before you tell him... that is if he still isn't involved with anyone else at that time. if he tells you that he loves you first, that's a different ball game ^_^

[YummYMummY84]

Maybe You ppl are thinking the worst there r decent guys out there. Ive givin him a choice to either stay around or not and he chose to stay around. Vashti by ur comment it seems like u have had bad experiences not all guys make a run for it.I admit surely alot of guys get scared off by a chick with a baby. Well wel will just see what happens im due anytime to have the baby and im totally sure he wont stop being close to me.

[Kiechi]

I've found that some guys really like the mom thing. Some of the ones who are looking for something more than a fling find competent motherhood a turn-on to the core of their animal brains. I've got the soccer-mom, let-me-make-you-a-sandwich thing going on, and let me tell you, I attract better quality men than I did when I was wild and free.

MILF



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[vashti]

Maybe You ppl are thinking the worst there r decent guys out there. Ive givin him a choice to either stay around or not and he chose to stay around. Vashti by ur comment it seems like u have had bad experiences not all guys make a run for it.I admit surely alot of guys get scared off by a chick with a baby. Well wel will just see what happens im due anytime to have the baby and im totally sure he wont stop being close to me.

Wrong. I am in a stable, long term marriage with kids, and I have never even been dumped by a boyfriend.

I am not saying he will stop being your friend when you have the baby. I am saying it is unlikely he will want to be involved romantically with a girl your age that has a baby that does not belong to him. It is too much responsibility for most people your age to handle.