what does this mean???

[lilmis]

hi i would b so greatful if some 1 on here could help me out with my situation

i met a guy a few months ago.. we was gettin on really well txtin each other every day an also chattin on msn.. every time that we was talkin he would always tell me how much he was missin me when we wasnt together.. even tho we didnt see each other very often.. it still made me feel very happy as i thought i found someone who was diffrent 2 all the other guys.. an i fell 4 him in a very big way an beleived that he felt the same

the last time i saw him was sat nite he stayed everything was great like it always been an when he went home sunday mornin it was still the same.. he said he would come back down that evenin.. but he didnt an he wasnt answerin my txts or he wasnt on msn either so i just thought that he mite have been tiered an didnt think much more of it because i dont want 2 pressure him... he has been having few problems lately with his ex who says shes pregnant with his child... ( even tho he has told her he dont want her no more she just wont leave him alone)

untill monday he still wasnt answerin my txts or on msn so was statrin 2 get things goin thro my head.. so for some reason i had 2 see if he had deleted me frm msn... an he had so really was confussed.. so tried phonein him to find out but he wouldnt answer the phone 2 me.. so by now was really gettin upset thinkin what have i done???

then on tuesday he finally sent me a txt bk sayin " im soz 4 last nite my head is all over the shop its unfair on u could we just be freinds 4 the min? X "

by then i was really upset because i txt him back but he didnt reply so i still didnt no why everythin had changed since sunday... so i emailed him ( it was the only thing i could think of doing at the time ) an then last nite he finally emailed me back this is wot it said..............

Im sorry i just cant do it i should not be happy, u have not done anythin wrong u deserve some one who will be there for u, i have no time to give and its unfair on u i wish u could understand its my fault i try makin time 4 u but i cant i only see u now and again and it dose my head in god knows what u feel u must think im usein u but its far from that i hope we could still b friends i dont want to lose u and maybe it might work 4 us some day and i hope it will xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

still no real reason i just wish i could understand what he means by this... i aint stopped cryin its tearin me apart an i dunno what 2 think or do

any advice would be really helpful esp if u can understand what he means
how can things just change in a day??? an with no real reason

[vashti]

He obviously didn't have as much of an emotional investment in this "relationship" as you did. Honestly, I think you should be dancing in the street with joy. He just blew off a girl who is pregnant with his baby? What a bastard. Just think: this could have been YOU. Things could be worse.

[lilmis]

well really should have mentioned that he only recently found out bout his ex beein pregnant was only bout 3-4 weeks ago... i was with him when she phoned an he has not hid any of it frm me

this prob wont make much diffrence any way

[vashti]

No, it doesn't. He still blew her off, right? He sounds like material for the Jerry Springer Show.

[blauw]

If u hear that u made a woman pregnant ...
u don't just tell her to "leave me alone"

I agree with vashti! Throw a party

[lilmis]

he has told his ex he dont want 2 know her (she wants him back ) but he wants to know the baby when its born which is due in september

thanx for your advice in some sort of way it makes sense

[vashti]

he has told his ex he dont want 2 know her (she wants him back ) but he wants to know the baby when its born which is due in september

How would YOU like being treated this way? If he is willing to do it to her, he'd be willing to do it to you, too. He lacks character. Don't kid yourself that he is a good catch. He doesn't - he sucks.

[Gigabitch]

L is for Loser

[lilmis]

i totally agree with u all
was just lookin thro the net an i found him on a datein site guess i was beein used
am well annoyed 2
thanx 4 all your help

[Gigabitch]

If you're not pregnant, you got off easy. Get yourself to a doctor, though, and get a checkup, because that's the kind of guy who will give you HIV.

[lilmis]

i didnt even think about that.. dont think i have caught anythin tho was always with condoms but will make appointment just 2 b on the safe side

thanx 4 all ur help its made sense