Why does she lie to me?

[justforkix]

I have a friend who I like very much...I think she knows I like her but we still hang out and go out for lunch/dinner often...

shes a basketball freak and she goes out often and plays with her other friends and she keeps telling me about it...I am not a huge basketball fan but I wanted to play with her coz that way i could spend more time with her...so I told her to call me whenever she plays....and since then shes been lying to me....

The other day we were together for about 4 hours and then she said she was sleepy and wanted to go home....and about an hour later I saw her playing basketball with another friend of hers...I was upset but I didnt ask her about it...

she lied to me two more times in the last week and I am wondering if I confront her about it...she keeps asking me what I do all the time and wants to know where all I hv been , who all ive been with and what all ive done...

[bugmenot]

she's being nice, she things she's saving you from pain, but she's just making it worse, ive been there, tell her

HOWEVER I COULD BE WRONG! BUT YOUR BEST BET IS STILL TO CONFRONT HER WITH IT! AND I'VE JUST REALISED CAPS LOCK IS ON!

[Teezy]

yeah man, sounds like mind games to me. She doesn't want to be a b!tch and tell you you're boring, but that's what she's doing by saying she has other things to do.

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[Ellynn]

Wow, so sauve is still around??

Anyways, sounds like she knows you like her and has completely different interests then her. So, she doesn't want to hurt your feelings by blowing you off to do what she wants to do.

You should never pretend to like something to impress someone. Cuz, trust me, sooner or later it shows. Just be yourself and she can take it or leave it. More then likely shes not interested in you as anything more then a friend. So I suggest moving on.

[mini696]

Yeah she is baing nice and letting you down gently... Back off a bit cos friends (especially male and female) should not spend every day together.

[vashti]

The rest of these posters COULD be right in suspecting she isn't THAT in to you. However, it is also possible that she just doesn't want to play *basketball* with you.

I have different friends that I share different activities with. For example, if I want to go shopping, I call one of my sisters, but not the other. If I want to just hang out and complain about my husband/mother/kids, whatever, I call the other one. Each sister has their strength, and I can easily recognize who is better for what.

This friend of yours may already have a thing going with other people that may not welcome you into the game. Maybe they already have teams or partnerships or whatever. Why don't you try a different activity with her? She may well like you for something other than basketball.

If you are trying to hit on her, however, you may want to back off. Most people can't manage the friend-to-relationship thing, and you might be making her nervous.

[Illusional]

two things that come to mind... why don't you talk to her about it?? if you are both friends, then it shouldn't matter. besides, if she's lying to you about this shit, then i believe that she doesn't really wanna be with you. which brings me to my second point. if she's lying to you, then she's probalby not interested in you and she doesn't know how to bring it to you. she might be wanting one of her bball friends who shares the same interest in her. i should follow my own advice, there are many fishes in the sea..why get stuck on just one??

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[mini696]

Vashti is right too.

My ex had her own little activities that she liked to do by herself and her friends only. Most of the time its a case of sucking up your dissapointment and doing your own thing.