I need help! Does she like me?

[quinn1101]

Hey

I've known this girl for 4 years now, and for the past 3 of those I've grown to really like her. There are times when I could call it love. She's been out with two guys over that period, and I haven't really hung out with her when she's been single, until now. About a month ago someone told me that she broke up with her boyfriend. And then she said she was gonna be in the area soon, and she wanted to see me. Anyway we spent a great week together, where at times she was really couply, like when among friends she would generally pair off with me, sharing popcorn when a whole lot of us went to the movies etc. The whole time I wanted to tell her my feelings but couldn't figure out how, in the end i said nothing (AAAAGGHH!).

And she kept making little comments, for example we were casually talking about going away for a trip with friends, when she turned away to do something and she said under her breath 'or just we could go'. Just little hints. It was messing me up... and the thing is I would occasionally make a (very) small pass at her, like obviously trying to provoke contact between us, and she would be a bit cold with me. Moving too fast for her? Or just not interested?

Anyway, we went our separate ways (uni vacation ended) and since then (2 weeks ago) we've kept in contact, a lot to start with on her part, but less later on. She rang me every day for a few days to start with, then not for a while, but we maintained contact, although it feels a little like things have changed. Is it possible she got back with her ex? (at the same uni), have I missed my chance?

I'm seeing her again next week, and I don't know what to do. Should I tell her my feelings? Thinking back, and from seeing what some of my mates have been through recently, she could have just been trying to take it really slow, but I'm not sure.

Sorry about the long post, I've had a lot to get off my chest. Has anyone got any suggestions? Any help would be greatly appreciated... I'm crazy about this girl. I want her to know how I feel, I want to know how she feels, and at the same time I don't want to mess up our relationship...

[King Zarathu]

Okay listen man you HAVE to tell her how you feel otherwise this shit will bottle up inside and **** you over just like it happened to me a couple threads ago.

That's pretty much it dude, just suck it up, be a man, and tell her how you feel. If she rejects you too damn bad. Otherwise, A+

You'll be glad you did in the end, I promise.

[Ellynn]

Let her know.... Otherwise you will NEVER know and it will mess with your mind forever...

[quinn1101]

Okay, here it is... I finally told her. Yesterday. I called her and basically what I said was "I've got something really big to tell you, and before I say it I just wanna say if you don't wanna come down in a few weeks (like we had planned) or never want to talk to me again then that's cool. Here goes - I have feelings for you. If you never want to talk to me again then I understand. It's something I've got to deal with myself. But I have to know, is our relationship ever gonna change?"

She said no. I feel like hell.

But here's the thing, i am probably in denial here but did i kinda talk her into it? think about it... if someone said the above to you, even if you liked the person, wouldn't it be hard to say yes cos they kinda assumed you would? (I made it obvious that I assumed she was gonna reject me, just as a backup kinda thing.)

Am i in denial?

[quinn1101]

thing is, i know she's liked me at one point (she's dropped major hints) and she also said 'not now' rather than just 'no' at one point in the conversation.

Sorry about the detail

[wildadrenaline]

call her up.. tell her how u feel & ask her for hers.. at least when u get an answer, u'll feel alot better

[Diego the pimp]

allright listen up but here it goes (from a 14yr old's point of view)

To what you said...she wasn't obviously gonna say, yes our relationship is gonna change...I mean I feel like you are bottling this up...just do it.JUMP

[google3000]

I think you probably are in denial...sorry, but thats just how I see it.

Perhaps you should have been more direct and simply asked her if she could ever see the two of you being bf and gf.

If she wanted something along the lines of boyfriend/girlfriend I think her response would have been much more positive.

However, really good friends (male or female) who truly care about you are very hard to come by so hold on to her.

[Piggy Bunny]

Hmmm...why do you need to know how she feels about you? If you really love the girl, you shouldn't be afraid to go off and tell the world how you feel about her, even if you're gonna get rejected or hurt and made fun of. Just go for it.

[gmcMatch]

yes call her up...

[Teezy]

Sound confident that you two should be together. Say something along the lines of:

"We should be together, how do you feel about that?"

Short, to the point.

Convince her that YOU'RE the catch, not her.

Think about it man, she's got 100 guys she could call. Be that ONE.

-T

[AdamVanEssen]

You really gotta get over her man. All those hints she was giving you means that she was playing with your mind. She loved the confidence she got from knowing you were really into her. Don't waste your time with her.

[rpglord]

Never tell a girl how you feel.That is bad thing to do in 90 % of cases.What you should do is ACT on it,not just talk like a sissy boy.What you should have done is get together with her,and then kiss her when you think time is right.That would be MUCH better and would leave much better impression on her,then talking some bullshit on the phone