Hello I Need Some Help Please

[origami]

Sorry if this post becomes a long one.

Ok well i was with a girl for six months. She was my first...it didnt start out right but she grew to trust me. I loved her so much. We had a fight in public and well her parents wanted her to choose Me or her parents. She picked her parents.

I couldnt believe it. She would call me sometimes. She started drinking and smoking weed. She knew i didnt like either but I still wanted to be with her because i loved her. She told me she needed time and would stop drinking and smoking. Later on she would say she was trying bi for a friend she met at working and had told her friend to move in with her and her parents.

Of course i cried every much. I wanted to be with her but I knew that this was the best because if you knew her parents they were ugly people. They would steal and make hot checks. So im ok that we are not together because of her "way of living"

We have been apart for about 2 months. She called me at least 4 times a week but that has stopped.

I have been thinking of her much more lately for some reason.

I actually think that trying to get someone else will help with this pain. What should I do. To help me with stop thinking about her


Thank you

[Ellynn]

It sounds like you did the right thing by cutting her out of your life. She seems pretty confused about what she wants etc. Even though her parents might not be the best to be around, they still are her parents. You have to respect that.

I doubt things will change for the better between you two, so its best you just let it go.

[origami]

thank you Ellynn
I know i should respect her descion but she had told me that she wanted to buy a house with me and everything.

Why do i still think about her after 2 or 3 months have passed.

would it be best to try to date again to forget about her.

[Ellynn]

So, one min she pushes you away and the next she wants to buy a house with you? She seems like she doesn't know what she even wants!

Plus, I would never buy a house with someone I was NOT married to. Too confusing if things don't work out, not to mention she could just leave and stick you with all the bills. It would be different say if you owned a house yourself and could afford it all and then she moved in and paid rent or her half of the bills etc. But, NOT a wise move to buy a house with someone.....especially someone who is back and forth like her.

yes, I would date other people and try to move on. Its for the best.

[origami]

thanks Ellynn

Well at the time we were engaged and it was pretty much her idea.
I dont know how a woman can just turn so quickly. Wanting me one minute and the next didnt care for me at all.

Of course you have to understand Iam the type of guy that wants a long term relationship and she was my first girlfriend and i didnt know the meaning of reason hehe.

Ive learned from my mistake...we went WAY too fast. So im going to learn to take it slow with the next girl.