help please?

[atomicdefection]

Ok I have a few questions, I don’t know if maybe its just me worrying to much or maybe I’ missing something. So here goes.

Me and my girlfriend have been living together for about 2 - 3 months now we have dated on and off for around 5 years now maybe a little more. But lately it seems like she doesn’t want much to do with me. We haven’t done anything intimate for a while now and at times it seems like she thinks it’s “funny” so to speak. We rarely cuddle anymore. And it seems like she tries to hide her guy friends around me. I don’t know if this is something I should worry about or not? I have tried to sit down and talk to her about it but she doesn’t seem to want to talk. I love this girl to death and I don’t know what to do.. Any advice would be grateful.

Thanks

[atomicdefection]

Also, if it help's i am 19 years of age and she is 20

[Junket]

Maybe she doesn't like you anymore.

Ask 'er.

[atomicdefection]

Maybe she doesn't like you anymore.

Ask 'er.

thats just the thing i have and she doesnt ever wanna seem to talk about it... i never came out and blunt asked but if i ask if somethings has been bugging her she avoids it or gets mad

[blauw]

I think Frasbee is right ...
She runs away from the conversation probably not wanting to hurt u.

[Gigabitch]

Is she actually different since you moved in together, or are you just noticing things more because you're together more?

Sex does taper off after a few years in any relationship, but I wonder why it's happening now, just since you started living together.

Did you move in together because you were ready for the next step or to try to fix something in your relationship?

[atomicdefection]

Did you move in together because you were ready for the next step or to try to fix something in your relationship?

no she moreless had no where else to live in the state we live in cause her family moved away and she moved in with me but like i said we have only lived together for 2 months and have been dating this time for about 4 or 5

[Gigabitch]

Do you feel like she's getting tired of you?

Maybe you should try to be fun for a day, and don't bring up the "Where is this relationship headed- do you still love me" topic. She might just be weirding out a little because of the adjustment.

[anhmaimaiyeuvn]

Maybe she doesn't like you anymore.

Ask 'er.

Yah, I have a feeling she has someone else in mind..."maybe she doesn't like you anymore."

Atomicdefection, sorry I havn't had any experience with someone yet so can't really help you that much man. Don't want to give you the wrong advice...you know. However, do you know what I think...I'd talk to her nicely and softly but be more direct with her.
Like, "Baby or honey (or the warm word you use to call her by), how come we don't talk anymore...I meant I love you so much and I want this relationship to continue...you know I love you, I remember we started out so well together...remember the time when we together, I used to (or you used to)...why is it different now....when I ask you things you don't answer me, is it because..." then see what her respond is, if she starts saying things it might mean she really want to talk now. But continue saying how much you love her and how you love her...like "I love you because I think of you...I think of you all the time, at work and everywhere I go...I was wondering if you think the same of me." Wait for the respond. From this point on, if you like, you can talk more about the time you spend with her and the things you did when you guys were together for 5 yrs etc.
Then at this point, you can hit her with the ultimate question, "do you love me anymore?" pause for a few seconds, look at her like you're still in love then say "I still love you, there's someone else beside me isn't it?"
This is the question you want to finalize with her. If she sees nobody else then ask her "what is it then?", "please tell me, I'll give you what you want" ...etc
In this way, you don't force or demand anything from her, basically you're giving her room to work, let her think if she needs to but don't expect anything good from all this.

Atomicdefection, you want an answer you have to face the ultimate question and take it from there. If she doesn't love you anymore...hey, you can't change that...the only way she will come back to you is thru time...time will tell. Move on with your life ... there's plenty of things to do beside worrying too much.
Find somebody else if this happens but I wish you the best man...good luck!