Girl persues relationship, then totally changes up on me....

[ZG123]

Ya, Im 99% positive any kind of relationship at this point is not gonna work, this is too big a slap in the face. She would basically have to break down and cry and admit everything she did was wrong and give me very specific reasons why she did this and why I should take her back....and I HIGHLY doubt that would happen....

Soooo...My plan is basically not even acknowledge her at work. Dont call, dont text. Im planning on applying for another job in my company that will transfer me to a different site, the sooner the better.

Im betting that my flowers that were on her desk on Tuesday will be gone when I come in on Friday. Im also guessing she will be acting like nothings wrong and being very perky which is gonna tear me up in side, Im just gonna have to slink down in my desk and try my best to avoid her.

For some reason I think she thinks that Im not as mad as I am am, because she sent that last text last night that she was gonna just stay home. Im gonna take my bike into the same city that we work in in a few hours to get some parts, Im hoping that I see her driving on her lunch break and she sees me on my bike.

[Gigabitch]

Do you know any smokin' hot women you could put on the back of your bike? I think a little "you snooze, you lose" lesson might be in order.

[ZG123]

Do you know any smokin' hot women you could put on the back of your bike? I think a little "you snooze, you lose" lesson might be in order.

Ya, I know some, I should put a few texts out to see who is availabe, good idea...

[M4 Psycho]

hey ZG123, quick question, how old are you?

Cause if you're under 18 then you don't know crap and should just quit trying to fall in love, cause you're way to young to understand anything about life and women.

[Gigabitch]

He's 25. He's old enough. She was just insane.

[M4 Psycho]

oh lol, I say just forget it and move on dude. If she's gonna be worth a lot of trouble and torture you, just forget about it.

[BlackiesHD]

Do you know any smokin' hot women you could put on the back of your bike? I think a little "you snooze, you lose" lesson might be in order.

I am ROTFLMAO as I just posted a similar suggestion on my 'should I be upset about this?' thread for him.

Bright minds....

[ZG123]

Thanks for the replies guys. One quick question, in the slight chance that she actually wants to talk to me and asks me to go to lunch with her or something today or tommorow, what would you guys do? I mean, I really want some type of explanation here because this whole situation doesn't add up.

[BlackiesHD]

Thanks for the replies guys. One quick question, in the slight chance that she actually wants to talk to me and asks me to go to lunch with her or something today or tommorow, what would you guys do? I mean, I really want some type of explanation here because this whole situation doesn't add up.

ZG123, honestly I don't know what I'd do.

50% of me says sure, go and listen to her chickenshit excuses if for nothing more than entertainment value. But BE ALOOF! She'll probably be saying what you want to hear, the 'I love you's, I'm just scared, etc.' but remain calm and think before you speak. (Unlike me)

The other 50% of me says to say '**** OFF! Nobody treats me like this and besides, I have other plans.' Difficult to do that I know as you work together.

Don't expect some kind of explanation or closure as it probably won't happen. I had four phone calls from mine yesterday, although 'lite' all very sweet and sharing her days events with me like I was her husband.

Then last night, radio silence. Sometimes when I hang up the phone I feel like we'll be married within a year. Other times I feel like we'll never speak again.

I'm SICK of this roller coaster.

[ZG123]

ZG123, honestly I don't know what I'd do.

50% of me says sure, go and listen to her chickenshit excuses if for nothing more than entertainment value. But BE ALOOF! She'll probably be saying what you want to hear, the 'I love you's, I'm just scared, etc.' but remain calm and think before you speak. (Unlike me)

The other 50% of me says to say '**** OFF! Nobody treats me like this and besides, I have other plans.' Difficult to do that I know as you work together.

Don't expect some kind of explanation or closure as it probably won't happen. I had four phone calls from mine yesterday, although 'lite' all very sweet and sharing her days events with me like I was her husband.

Then last night, radio silence. Sometimes when I hang up the phone I feel like we'll be married within a year. Other times I feel like we'll never speak again.

I'm SICK of this roller coaster.

Ya, the roller coaster sucks. And I guess Im thinking the same way, theres no excuse for what she did really, but at the same time Id like to hear some type of explanation for peace of mind.

I just cant think of what would cause this. The only thing that happened recently that could have really scared her about a relationship so she just totally shut down is she told me that when she got home on Tuesday from work, there was a card from her ex boyfriend. He bought her a $50 gift certificate to a hair salon and wrote something like "The certificate is so you can change, the other present is my heart, because I want you to have it so you can make me a better person". She said she called him and he asked if she still loved him and she told him no and **** you.

[Gigabitch]

Thanks for the replies guys. One quick question, in the slight chance that she actually wants to talk to me and asks me to go to lunch with her or something today or tommorow, what would you guys do? I mean, I really want some type of explanation here because this whole situation doesn't add up.

I've had some experience with people who act like total assholes and then turn around and pretend nothing happened. Don't let her get away with this. If she wants to go to lunch with you, there's no reason to turn her down unless you have to pretend that everything is fine. Also, consider the fact that she may ruin your appetite.

[BlackiesHD]

Not meaning to threadjack but I've just decided to pretend that mine doesn't exist for this weekend. Kinda sad but I have to do it for my own sanity. Spoke to her once today briefly, said she's be over next weekend ('I want to take your Mother shopping!') which is all well and good but there will be another excuse I'm sure.

This is not a healthy relationship, I think she's mental, maybe I am a bit too. That's not a good combination.

Meanwhile I'm going and hang out with friends tonight at a club and as of today have thrown myself into a new business project that I'm excited about that keeps my mind off of her. Well, sorta. The sad part is, there's a small place in the project for her too.

Damn...

[ZG123]

Not meaning to threadjack but I've just decided to pretend that mine doesn't exist for this weekend. Kinda sad but I have to do it for my own sanity. Spoke to her once today briefly, said she's be over next weekend ('I want to take your Mother shopping!') which is all well and good but there will be another excuse I'm sure.

This is not a healthy relationship, I think she's mental, maybe I am a bit too. That's not a good combination.

Meanwhile I'm going and hang out with friends tonight at a club and as of today have thrown myself into a new business project that I'm excited about that keeps my mind off of her. Well, sorta. The sad part is, there's a small place in the project for her too.

Damn...

Atleast you can still get excited about other things, that will help keep your mind off of her. Basically the only way I know to not think about her is go out and get drunk and talk to other girls, which is what iVe done the last two nights.

Id love to fully update you guys but it would take forever to type out all of her texts she sent today. Basically, ignoring her was definitly killing her. She sent a text right after I got in asking if we weren't talking anymore because when she walked by my desk she said I looked cranky and I gave her a death stare. I replied to the text and said, thats what you wanted isnt it. She replied back with "no "....then five minutes later she sent "not at all"

All day she kept trying to get me to talk to her via text and go to the break room but I refused. Ill admit, I replied to a few texts because I wanted to see what she would say and see if she just didnt like me at all or if she still did want to talk to me, thats all I needed to satisfy myself a bit. She told me to call her when I left work, but I dont think I will, Ill let her call me, doubt she will though. Im very curious as to what her excuse is, but whatever.

[BlackiesHD]

Atleast you can still get excited about other things, that will help keep your mind off of her. Basically the only way I know to not think about her is go out and get drunk and talk to other girls, which is what iVe done the last two nights.

That's exactly what I did tonight and I'm damn glad I did it. It's 2am, just got in and I'm a little 'fuzzy', but what a great night. Met one hot blonde within five minutes of being there, she was on a first date but we were flirting and talking as much as possible all night, exchanged numbers and agreed to talk on Sunday. And she lives real close to me too! No L/D shit. Yeah!!!!!

Three more girls were flirting with me. I was so enthralled with girl # 1 I didn't even ask for their numbers, just gave them my card. Girl # 1 seemed to be a bit jealous and said 'why wouldn't they flirt with you? You're hot!' Made me feel like I'd just won the ****ing lottery, I really needed that self-esteam boost after all this other shit.

If it works out with mine and/or yours, that great. If not, there are tons of other women out there that will appreciate us. 100% for sure! Their loss, someone else's gain.

[BlackiesHD]

Hey ZG123 -

Just checking in to see how your weekends going. Any news from her?

I had two good nights in a row out at the club. I feel a lot better, had fun, heard some good music, got a couple of numbers, got my mind off of 'her' for a change.