help!! what would u do?

[ipfreelee]

Alright first things first plz get a drink and take a seat because this is a STORY. i'm in love with one of best friends who i have known for the past 6 years. we met in the first year of college and have been friends since. at first i caught feelings and was interested but like most men didn't do anything. she had a boyfriend for almost 5 years and i was 2 busy sleeping around alot ( c'mon it was college =)

TODAY, years went by, she broke up with her X and was i done sleeping around and wanted a real relationship. we have had our differences as friends but always continued to remain VERY close. we talk at least twice a day, go to the same university but in the back of my mind i always thought we would end up together. Now i thought she only saw me as a nothing more than a "friend" and didn't want a relationship with me. but hey, u only live once and i intent to live my life without regrets or what ifs? one day i went by her place popped in a dvd, cuddled and feel asleep in each other arms (that’s not the first time that has happened).

so I decided it was finally time, so i told her how i felt and to my surprise she said she likes me too but was too afraid to tell me because of our friendship cuz if it doesn't workout it will hurt our friendship. Plus i didn't get any signals from her cause she isn't very touchy with anyone (no hugs, no kisses when greeting her) she said with me its different cause if i touch her hand she wants to hold my hand and if i hug her she actually wants to hold me). i told her if u want something badly u gotta take risks. the night ended with unanswered questions and the next day i went away on vacation for a week (cuba=).

when i get back we talk again and she says she sees something happening between us but just not now (she has family problems, $$$ issues and alot of stress). i don't want to agrue or anything so i leave it at that. the next week everything is great, more flirting, little inside jokes about the two of us being together (maybe this is it). one she had a bad day, so i went over played a song for her which was about me and her and she bursted out into tears and we laid down in her bed. then she tells me she wants to be with me but she won't put 100% into it cause she STILL has feelings for her X (who took advantage or her and treated her like $hI+) they broke up a year and a half ago but they had sex twice since and once was 3 months ago. but then she tells me she always thought if she waited 2 long she will miss her chance with me and i'll find someone else and that if we go out she feels like she will hurt me somehow and sex would be weird buz i have much more experience than her [8 to 3] (BS). then we feel asleep together.
After that night everything changed. our conversations are not the same, the vibe is soo weird and we only talk for 10 mins a day instead of at least an hour. this has been going on for a week now.

so now i hate the position that i'm in cause shes in the drives seat and i'm waiting for a decision. (i'm always in the drivers seat with women) her mom, family, all her friends love me and say we would make a great couple (she told me this). She says she wants a good guy (like me cuz b4 she wanted bad boys) and jokes about us ending up together.etg kids, we to live (she wants to move in wit me). we have soo much in common food, sports, movies u name it. and she is a GOOD GIRL not a ho, honest loyal u name it. she is the only i've ever loved and can c myself with. plz if u read though this tell me your thoughts, advice, anything?

BUT i don't believe she is honest with me (plz reply) because if she wasn't over me y would she go out with a rebound guy (after her X) for a month and was interested in going out with 2 other guys BUT CANT GO OUT WITH ME. right now i feel like telling her forget about us right now and concentrate on ur life and still remain friends but be as close friends. All I want to find out is if it will work? If it does it does it not 2 bad. Life goes on and so will i. Should i wait or should i say something?

[Prodigal]

Hm, this is a tough situation..

I think that her feelings haven't changed. I think that she's still really afraid of committing to you because of the whole 'losing you as a friend if it doesn't work out' thing. So, she responds in the worst way: by making it awkward. The situation is still ambiguous, nothing has been solved. If this keeps up the friendship will be damaged AND she won't be with you.

I think that you should take initiative and tell her you want to talk to her in person. I think you should have a talk about it... try to clear things up. Try to make it clear that you two can either forget about it and just be friends, or go for it and start going out. None of this awkward, in between crap. Believe me, that's a really bad place to be. It also depends on how you feel. It seems that you like her, so you should comfort her when she gives reasons for being scared like having feelings for her ex, etc. Like... telling her, but you have strong feelings for me, right? Or.. something. But I think you should talk to her and make things clear.