Dating advice I found. Do women like to test men much?

[shymaster]

Let me introuce myself again since I'm very new here. I'm male, extremely shy, 30 yrs old and have never kissed a girl before so obviously I don't have too much experience with this kind of stuff.

I came across an article which really intrigued me because I hadn't heard this talked about too much and even with my limited experience with women I had something similar happen to me. It threw me for a loop.

This is the advice in question:

Dating tip #6 Look out for her tests. Sexy women (indeed, all women) will test you to see if you�ll stand up to them. If you can�t stand up to her, you can�t stand up for her. If she asks you to buy her things, that�s a test�and a perfect opportunity to be a �naughty little boy� (see Dating tip #3). Say something like, �What do I look like an ATM machine? You should buy ME something, just for the privilege of spending time with me. I like sexy women who buy me things!� This is said in a playful�yet firm�manner that lets her know you�re onto her. When you pass their tests, it drives sexy women wild with desire. Very important dating tip.

Sorry for all the question marks but this is how I found the advice.

Now how much of this advice is true? Do women like to give out test questions like this either conciously or nonconciously?

What other kind of tests would one look out for? And how should one respond to them?

Thanks for any responses everyone. It's much appreciated.

[vashti]

I think that dating advice was meant for 15 year old boys. I can't imagine a grown woman asking a man to buy her things.

[shymaster]

Right. It happened to me though which is too bad for the girl because I'm the cheapest person alive!.


Is there any truth to the test thing at all? What about other tests?

[vashti]

Test? I don't know that I would call them "tests". Certainly, your behavior is being noted. I think it is best to worry about whether or not the women you date are passing YOUR tests. For example, if someone asked ME to buy an item for them on our first date, they wouldn't pass MY test. (I do not include dinner as an item, BTW. If you ask someone out to dinner, then you should pay.)

[thinker]

It does sound geared towards a 15 year old...

I like and dislike these articles/theories on dating for several reasons. They are sometimes funny, and have really good and sometimes accurate advice. However, they treat dating as a card game and a love as a science... with a roadmap and pit stops and all, which is not at all realistic. Sure, in the early stages of getting to know someone there will be some inherent "test" but the "buy me things" issue is more of a red light for me; this is when you say "and goodbye now" to the leech and move on with confidence that you just saved a few g's...

Women test you ALL THE TIME... my grandma still does to gramps! It really never ends... it's a form of communication; say the woman feels unwanted; she will be hard to get and give you every reason not to chase after her though that's all she wants... I know, they are confusing little vixens... but whatcha gonna do? I have actually been known to throw down a few tests of my own in the past... all of which were miserably failed, mind you... subtle hints of "hun, don't you think that guy over there is good looking?" of course, the correct answer would have been "No, sweetie. You are the only good looking man on the planet" which is rare... ANYWAYS, yeah; testing comes from both angles, and there is no way to prepare or "study" lol for them; just do what comes naturally, and you will be telling her much more about yourself than if you follow some lame dating manual.

[Gigabitch]

This is why you have never kissed a girl. I see now.

[Ellynn]

Yeah forget the tests. I would say I just have standards. Some things I can compromise on a bit, others I won't and refuse to.

I never ever expect anything from a guy (money wise), especially in the beginning. But, if he offers, its definately appreciated and I have been taught to always say Thank you. I just have never been the type to be that clingy that I need a mans wallet to make me happy or to feel loved. If I really want something, I can/or will buy it myself, and I have.
I say its more of the little things, or the thoughtfulness that is put into things that he does for me. Actions and not so much material objects. You can't put a price on that. That is honestly what means the most in the long run. Of course that works both ways.

But thats just me and how I feel.

As for a guy who is THAT materialistic and full of himself that says stuff like" YOU should buy me something because I'm spending time with you." Now that is the biggest turnoff I have EVER heard in my entire life! Even if he is just joking. Honestly, if you want to completely make a girl LOSE interest, use that line.
Or a guy who makes a HUGE deal about spending money by taking me out to dinner when HE is the one who ASKED me out to dinner. I also agree that if you ask, you should pay. And yes, this works both ways. (Yes, I have paid for dinners with ex's of mine simply because I have asked those times.)

Do yourself a favor and quit looking at those stupid magazines that write articles geared towards macho jerks and try to just be normal. Try that approach and see what happens.

[b*tch]

Now how much of this advice is true? Do women like to give out test questions like this either conciously or nonconciously?

What other kind of tests would one look out for? And how should one respond to them?

Thanks for any responses everyone. It's much appreciated.

NOT LITERALLY A TEST! awww..

As a woman, I give a hard time to my fiance sometimes which I am very unconcious. I just bitch around when I feel being disregard.

BTW, age 30 and never kissed a woman? FOOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL