A tale of woe and misfortune...

[tooxshort]

Well Chronic, I went through a fairly similar situation with you and my ex girlfriend last year ... we were together for 3 1/2 years ... there was a situation where she pretty much slept with her ex boyfriend after we had been dating for 8 months ... I forgave, but I never let her forget (nor could I) ... I was pretty much a dick to her for 2 years ... After which, my trust began to build again. I let her do her thing and I did my thing. I tried to give myself reasons to let it go and that her state of mind (at the time) let her do it, but it probably wasn't the case. After 3 1/2 years, I found out she was seeing someone behind my back ... You can't make a ho a housewife ... seriously ... you need to break her ass & shake her ass ... I left right after the 2nd time ... I should've left from the getgo, but I was so blinded by "love" ...

Right now, it MAY seem like she could be the one you could have a future with, but you gotta see the big picture ... little things become big things ... I think you should let her go ... can someone like that really be "the one" for you? Once you think about that, then you realize things better...like...is that someone I really wanna be with? I'm in love with someone right now ... I know it won't work out, so I'm just letting it burn ... Just don't want you to end up dragging a dead horse in the end ...

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[ChRoNicWeAseL]

Hey, thanks for the support there. Yeah, I broke up with her... amd totally messed her up, but I'm hurting too, so hey. Bully for for her. But she called me yesterday, (and she'd been calling multiple times everyday since I broke up with her) and told me she felt the same amount of love for me as ever, but now she was thinking clearly. I told her I might think about dating her in the future if she spends a couple of months just thinking about how much she wants to be with me. And I'm bringing her Alexi's little love note, too!!!

[Carla]

I read the whole thing and, as a woman I must tell you usually we do not cheat on guys we love, there's a whole "security" and "marriage safety"isssue we all want deep down and cheeting does not fit that picture. Therefore a girl can cheat on you once perhapps because she was feeling upset and it's an accident but not twice. A Girl won't do that unless she is unhappy with you in which case you should cut and run or is a total hoe or very imbalanced and unhealthy . In all cases do not get dragged down into this, she will cheat again and forgivness is good but not recurrently.
Be wise and back off from her, the longer you stay , the harder it will be to get over her when she does do it again, because she will.
Good luck

[squirrley]

Chronic of course she REALIZES how much she loves you NOW that ended it, they always do. But you HAVE to stick with your decision-you keep going back and youve got SCMUCK written on yourself!!!

Dont let her walk on you...DONT. YOU deserve so much more than that from someone. Shes not worth it to put yourself there again.
And you tell her that-bring Alexi's letter sometime-but YOU YOURSELF NEED TO STAND UP TO HER-enough is enough. And youve had your fair share of cheating and youre done-seeya honey!

Good for you-but dont think or tell her maybe down the road-that leads to getting back together, and she will fall AGAIN!

Keep your wits about you man! LOOK at what she has done, you cant and wont get past that-it WILL ALWAYS be there-the trust IS GONE!!!

hence-move on and STAY moved on!!!

[BillyGalbreath]

Originally posted by squirrley
...once a cheater always a cheater....

Ok, I did not read all of this post... But that statement caught my eye...

I am sorry squirrley, but I am going to have to strongly disagree with that statement... I am living proof that it is not always true...

I am going to stay out of this dispute between you all - and I have no advice to give for you, ChRoNicWeAseL...

All I have to say is I cheated on my first fiancee once when we first got together and I did not cheat on her ever again. Also I never cheated on any other woman since... And I dont intend to cheat on anyone in the future...

I knew what I was doing at the time that I cheated yet I still did it... But when it was over I could not stand the way I felt... That right there is enough to stop me from cheating on ANYONE no matter how good or how shitty the relationship I am in is...

Ok.. I am done venting..

[squirrley]

hey this is the deal: MOST people do cheat again. You might be the exception to the rule. And Ive been on this forum long enough to know that it does happen. Seen it read it, and know people who do it and continue to do it.

You yourself found out what it was like and realized how it made you feel, but Billy most people dont give a shit-thats why they keep doing it.

You dont have to agree with my statement, no one does, but it came from somewhere otherwise it wouldnt exist, I didnt make it up.

Billy I give you credit for recognizing how it made it you feel as a person, and you know you wouldnt do it again, but I still believe most people will continue to repeat that pattern.

[BillyGalbreath]

Originally posted by Billy41684
..I am living proof that it is not always true..

[ChRoNicWeAseL]

Thanx, I still love her. I went to a movie with her and some friends yesterday. I didn't let her do anything, and I sure didn't either. But hey, we're getting along. She said she loves me. I said I love her too, but once a cheater always a cheater, and she said she wouldn't date anyone or do anything for a while if it meant she could have me back. She's on trial...

[sfalexi]

Thanx, I still love her. I went to a movie with her and some friends yesterday. I didn't let her do anything, and I sure didn't either. But hey, we're getting along. She said she loves me. I said I love her too, but once a cheater always a cheater, and she said she wouldn't date anyone or do anything for a while if it meant she could have me back. She's on trial...

Actually, wouldn't this be more like parole?

[ChRoNicWeAseL]

yeah sexy-flexy, ur right!

[IceQueen]

In any case -- one of the most stupid things to do. Will not lead anywhere, will waste your time.

TRUST has been lost. It won't be recovered just by time.

[ChRoNicWeAseL]

Thank you icequeen, you are aptly named.

Really though, I appreciate the advice. But I'm going to see what happens. I promise, if something good happens, it won't make you any less sinister, ok? You'll always be evil to me!

[IceQueen]

Thank you icequeen, you are aptly named.

*ding!* There goes another nickel. That makes me a millionaire!

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What do you EXPECT to happen? Where are you going with this?
It seems like you're just waffling, too weak to let her go, without any real direction. And when you act without any real direction, don't expect to reach your goal.

[ChRoNicWeAseL]

Ice queen, I think your coldness is kind of cute actually. But leave this one alone. I know it bugs you. So don't think about it. Thanks for your concern though.

[IceQueen]

Ok, so you're NOT going anywhere with this, then.
Doesn't bug me (nor surprise me), just seems like a glaringly dumb thing to do.