Another update

[BlueRaven]

Isn't that what he wants?

He wants to be able to call her his girlfriend. I think you can do that without being totally attached.

[vashti]

He wants to be able to call her his girlfriend. I think you can do that without being totally attached.

Really? Girls these days must be getting dumber.

[BlueRaven]

Really? Girls these days must be getting dumber.

Haha... you said it, not me.

[daletom]

. . . how you consider someone your BF/GF but it seems that we are almost there.

I've started to open up now and we've had a few very nice kisses and have cuddled up with her on her sofa . . .

I'd say that if you are kissing & cuddling you are in fact BF/GF. Perhaps you are not each others' exclusive BF/GF - that's something you should probably discuss - and you may not want to advertise your status, but I think you are more than "just friends".

. . . if we are with each other at some sort of get together I dont want to make a joke of myself and introduce her as my GF when she thinks otherwise.

"Boyfriend" and "girlfriend" are not well-defined social status like "fiance' " or "husband/wife". Just introduce her as "my friend", "my co-worker", "my classmate", etc. Your behavior and interactions with each other will convey the nature of your friendship. It seems to me that when somebody feels compelled to introduce someone as "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" they are trying to post some kind of a social "No Trespassing - Do Not Touch - Prosecutors Will Be Violated" sign when in fact there is no generally recognized basis for it.