Help a young guy out (note this isn't about sex, perse)

[King Zarathu]

defile - How often do you masturbate?

[Herrie]

I'm a girl and have started experimenting with sex only quite recently. I came too with him just touching that specific areas with my pants on. And, what's more, the same happened to him once, while I wasn't really aiming for specific spots... He honestly told me, and yeah, I was proud of it. The fact that I was able to make him come just by kissing, touching a bit with clothes on. If you're that mature, just tell her.

[daletom]

I'm a girl and have started experimenting with sex only quite recently. I came too with him just touching that specific areas with my pants on. And, what's more, the same happened to him once . . . and yeah, I was proud of it. The fact that I was able to make him come just by kissing, touching a bit with clothes on. If you're that mature, just tell her.

I think MOST people, both men and women, are pleased and proud to help their partner to orgasm, whether by intercourse or some other way. This is especially true if it's somebody you care for. (I recall the first time I brought a girl to climax as vividly as losing my virginity. It was her first orgasm, which made it all the more special to me. In fact, the same girl got both "firsts" and we've been married for 32 years.) So you are probably robbing your partner of some satisfaction if you try to suppress or hide your climax when it happens.

Unfortunately many people have been socially conditioned to think that this activity is "wrong" or at least "inappropriate" outside of marriage. Personally I find it acceptable and actually actually a good way to save more intimate activity for a more committed relationship.

[Henry123]

ok well first of all i really dont want any advice about how i am too young to think about such things as true love and such becaue in my opinion its all about maturity, not age. And i will say i am more mature than most people my age.

Defile dont listen to Thinker. He gave me the same dribble with this 'Holier than Thou' attitude.

Unlike him I have heard of this condition befor. (so much for his "older=wiser" theory)


Nobody lived your life. Or had the exact same life experiences. Not to mention younger people are experiences more life situations at an much earlier stage in life than ever befor.

(btw There are men in their 50's who dont want to admit they have a sexual disfunction or have the courage to do something about it ; according to statistics. Impotence problem is probably the biggest.)

[risesun123]

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[vashti]

Oh, please. ::rolling eyes::

[King Zarathu]

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Are you ****ing stupid?

[TDurden]

There's no way he's not joking. He'd have to be ****ing retarded not to be, like so ****ing retarded that he couldn't type. So he very clearly must be kidding

[King Zarathu]

There's no way he's not joking. He'd have to be ****ing retarded not to be, like so ****ing retarded that he couldn't type. So he very clearly must be kidding

I can't believe there's actually a program to stop people from masturbating. **** those assholes.

As a matter of fact, I'm going to masturbate right now, just to rebel!

Be back later!

[vashti]

I think one of you guys should go check out his site to see if it's legit. I would do it myself, but no one minds if women masturbate.

[Junket]

I would do it myself, but no one minds if women masturbate.

Women are not supposed to exhibit any kind of sexual behavior.

It's a sin, and that's a fact.

[dreamer101]

amen to that.

[TDurden]

I looked at the site and it looks like they're serious. Though the way they make it sound is like it's only for people who have porn glued on the inside of their eyelids and have their hand on their dick 24-7.

[Mayfather]

Sounds like a good ol'fashion tale of pre-ejaculate.

Unless you are sitting there with your mouth gaping opened and moaning and twitching, you are not ejaculating. It's a normal process down there when then body is getting ready for some fun.

Lemme tell ya a story.

I was hmmm 22 I think... and I met this girl online... she told me she was 18. We talked for like 5 months (like after 1 or 2 weeks we were basically having an online relationship)... I had been refraining for any type of sex (with myself and with others) for at least 10 months. She was sooo sooo sooo hot, the kind of girl you'd be willing to die for beauty, honestly. Finally the day came and we met. We spent alot of time together on the first day, but my buddy was always around us... She lived like 1 hour away and I didn't have my lescence. Anyways, she turned out to be 16... but I didn't care anymore. When I finally took the train to go see her on weekends, I couldn't help it. I hadn't been touched nor touched myself for almost 12 months. I had a hard-on if she just looked at me (again, that type of "die-for" beauty" I got a hotel room (cuz I couldn't stay at her place) and that first night, the pre-ejaculate was like as if I was cumming... but not the same color of course. BTW she thought it was "cute" that I got turned on so easy... 12 months will do that to a 22 year old male... anyways... we didn't do "it" but we did "stuff" and I ended up cumming that night... I will NEVER EVER reach a pinnacle like that again. She gave me a blowjob, I squirted like 7 times in her mouth, then she had to pull away, and I squirted like almost 10 more times (and ****ING far too, I felt like the best pornstar in the universe) like basically I was lying down and my shots were landing clear right off the bed and onto the floor.

I don't know why I told you that...

Oh YEAH!!!

Torture yourself man... and don't worry about the wet gooey spots on your boxers after a good old make out session... because when you DO do it, it'll be the best in your life, you'll never, ever, ever get that again... so wait for it, wait for the timing.

[Tiay]

Masturbate a lot. It will probably stop you from ejaculating at the wrong times, and it's also healthy. I don't at all understand this 'guilt' thing you have. You do plenty of things every day that only pleasure yourself. like.. watching your favourite tv show. That doesn't make it greedy or wrong.

Tell her. The fact that she's waiting for marriage, and that she doesn't want her genitals touched at all yet.. makes me think she's pretty sexually repressed and that she's the kind of person who would not be proud of making you come, but would rather be repelled by it. But you gotta tell her anyways. If your relationship is to last, she needs to be the person that you can tell ANYTHING. if you start not telling her things, you start laying a brick wall between you and her.

You also wondered "I mean if it happens this quickly, i dont see how she'd ever been able to get near my penis without something happening"

I suppose there's a logic to that, but that's not how it works. Right now, your penis has never even seen a vagina before, the poor thing. Not only that, but she never even touches it, and from what I understand, neither do you.
So the slightest hint that you're making out with a beautiful girl sends it over the edge.
Don't worry; as soon as you start having sex or at least "petting" it from time to time, it will calm down.

I like the idea of waiting for marriage, but I don't think it's such a good idea because it makes you want to get married sooner than you would otherwise- which makes marriage about having sex, which I think it shouldn't be about.
Also, who cares if you're mature or not? Many people your age have thought they were in love with 'the one' and then it didn't work out, and in some cases people have stayed together. The point is, you feel the way you feel, and nobody can talk you out of it, so if it is a mistake, it is yours to make.