hi everyoen

[elNatural]

hello,
i just got out of a 2 1/2 year relationship with my first true love, so im surfin these forums to help with my recovery. neone else think there is more to a relationship than love? cuase i know there is but i would like other ppls opinions. im sry if the spellin is bd cause im pretty wasted right now but eh. anyone else been in love and then started lovin someone else that already had their heart set on someone that had already caused them pain and was no longer with them but didnt get closure with them so they carried that confusion over to the other relationshionships that included urslef? cause im in the same situation but kinda out of it cause i decided to distance myself instead of dealin with the pain which was inevident

[LeoSD]

Welcome to the forums. Trust and communication are important in a relationship, but I honestly think those are included in love.

Anyhow, enjoy your stay here and PM me if you need some advice, or just post. This board is full of people who are always willing and glad to help the best they can.

[elNatural]

lmao, sry for the somewhat confusion first post. I'll be more coherant in this one. Heres my story:

I'm 20, junior in college, been in deep love once and started too another time but thats kinda bein sufacated right now. First girl I fell in love with I met in high school, asked her to prom and were together until a lil more than a month ago ( so thats about 2 1/2 years). We had a long distance relationship as we both go to different colleges but it was only about 1 1/2 hour distance, so I would drive to her place every weekend cause she was workin and I wasnt. The love stemed from a more of content and lustfull seed seeing as we didnt have much in common but we liked to just lay together and hang out, watch tv, eat, have sex, that kinda thing. It was really hard on me because I found myself trying to keep a safe distance from getting too involved with my friends at my college so that it wouldnt be so hard for me when they kept talkin about have the parties and wishin i was there. My freshman year I had met another girl at college and we instantly bonded, she was almost like a complete 180 from my gf, we had almost everything in common, and she also had a boyfriend so it was easy for us to hang out and not make it anything past that. But later on she became single and so I had to try and distance myself from her because I was afraid of finding that I wanted to leave my gf for her. My gf had never gotten closure with her first bf, even tho it was never serious it was her first crush and had only lasted like 3 weeks but for some reason it kept her wanting him (althought it was more his body, because later she told me that she didnt feel the lustfull feelings for me that she did him but she felt more comfortable with me than anyone else, seeing as we loved each other and I had gained 20lbs since comin to college I tried to help her with it). It was always an underlying problem, as it eventually came to her questioning if I was the one and wanting to experience other guys ( I had already been with many girls and experienced sex a few times before getting together with her). So she wanted to try an open relationship, she had talked about it many times before but I talked her out of it by making her jelous of talking about other girls that wanted to be with me, so I realized that she would only quell her curiousity by finding for herself. I agreed to the open relationship but explained that I probaly wouldnt get back together with her, and she agreed.

That week I started spending a lot of time with my friend at my school (the girl I had bonded with), and realized that I was happier being with her than my gf. That got me thinking about what I wanted for my life and how much people change during their college years. I also realized that if my gf and I were to break up now and grow and find out what we wanted with our lives it would be much better than staying together and then realizing this once we were married or even had children together. She had tried being with another guy during this week also but realized that she 'really did love me' and that 'it was a test for her to find out if she really loved me' and I told her how I felt. This was the hardest and most painfull thing I have ever done in my life.

I kept spending every day with the girl from my college. In the following couple of weeks, I met her family and we started a relationship. I was then extremely surprised to find out that I had more closure with my past gf than she had with her past bf which she had broken up with more than 2 years ago. So now I am single again and focusing on school and what I will do with my life so when I do find the person for me I will already know everything else.

I have not learned so much in such a short time as I have this past month. I have realized that people shouldnt settle for something just because it makes them comfortable, how important getting closure is when you exit a relationship, love has many faces, you decide your happiness, and many more. The most important thing I have found is to be true to yourself, sometimes the easiest thing infront of you is not always the best.

I decided to start trolling these forums to get other peoples perspectives and learn while trying to help others and recieving some myself. Hello everyone and thx for readin.

[Gigabitch]

HI elNatural. I like the amount of energy you're bringing to the forum.

[Mathias]

I have not learned so much in such a short time as I have this past month. I have realized that people shouldnt settle for something just because it makes them comfortable, how important getting closure is when you exit a relationship, love has many faces, you decide your happiness, and many more. The most important thing I have found is to be true to yourself, sometimes the easiest thing infront of you is not always the best.

This is absolute money right here.

You're going to make quite an addition.

[elNatural]

haha thx, im lovin the encouragement, and let me add that drinkin with friends is awsome but to make sure u dont drink by urself cause then u risk the chance of gettin alcoholism

[King Zarathu]

haha thx, im lovin the encouragement, and let me add that drinkin with friends is awsome but to make sure u dont drink by urself cause then u risk the chance of gettin alcoholism

Your typing completely ruined it.

[elNatural]

Just like how you try to ruin every topic you post on with your pointless insults. I'm still waiting for that link Z. Until I see that you are sharing anything with this community other than your immaturity, I will assume that you are only here to get attention and to stroke your e-peen. Please refrain from posting on my topics unless you have something constructive to say, otherwise you should go to the World of Warcraft forums because there are many people there just like you so I think you would have more fun.

[Gigabitch]

Believe it or not, ElNatural, Zarathu occasionally comes up with the most articulate, insightful and emotionally valid posts on the forum. This is why he has not been murdered yet.

Yet.

I love him. Sometimes I have an incredibly strong urge to slap his smart ass, but if you give it some time, you'll see the other side of him. Of course, he'll probably go back and delete it within two days.

[Kiechi]

Believe it or not, ElNatural, Zarathu occasionally comes up with the most articulate, insightful and emotionally valid posts on the forum. This is why he has not been murdered yet.

Yet.

I love him. Sometimes I have an incredibly strong urge to slap his smart ass, but if you give it some time, you'll see the other side of him. Of course, he'll probably go back and delete it within two days.

Ew... you said the "e" word.

Welcome to the forum Elnatural.

[Gigabitch]

Oh, did I gross you out, Eurasian? I'm sorry. Here's a bucket for you to barf in.

[Kiechi]

Oh, did I gross you out, Eurasian? I'm sorry. Here's a bucket for you to barf in.

screw barfing, I need a shit. got any toilet paper?

[Gigabitch]

screw barfing, I need a shit. got any toilet paper?

Here, you can use my silk scarf. I adore you that much. Um, you don't need to give it back. Keep it.

[Kiechi]

Here, you can use my silk scarf. I adore you that much. Um, you don't need to give it back. Keep it.

That nices of you, but you gotta' remember I'm a gentleman. Here, take it. haha

[Gigabitch]

News Brief: Earlier today, a young man was found in his own basement, tied to a chair by a very dirty silk scarf. When questioned, the victim looked mortified, but would offer no explanation as to how he got there.