How many is too many?

[jurupa]

22 years 0 partners

People who do not know me very well think there is something wrong with me for not having sex yet. And no I am not waiting until marriage.

[Ellynn]

25- 3 partners.

I have a friend who is the same age and has had about as many as the poster of this thread. She is far from a slut! She just loves the dick!

As long as your clean and ensure you go to all measures of keeping yourself that way, what you do is your own business.

[Katty]

That was good to hear. I don't consider myself a slut either. But some guys I've dated thought I would cheat on them because of my history. I'm totally not like that, so I hate to hear it. That's why I wanted other peoples' opinions and a note on their experience.

[vashti]

I don't think you are a slut, but I think many males would disagree. We live in a double-standard society, and it is best to just accept it because it isn't going away any time soon. Just keep your sexual history to yourself. No good will come out of being blatantly honest about this.

[Rob26]

The thing about "not lying" by not bringing it up is that if some guy gets serious about you there's an excellent chance he'll ask you. Then what are you gonna do?

[vashti]

Personally, I would tell him I wasn't the kiss-and-tell type, and tell him to quit asking questions he didn't REALLY want to know the answer to. If he persisted on pressuring me to answer, I would bluntly tell him I considered his badgering a violation of my privacy. If he still pushed it, I would consider it a problem. Who wants to be with someone who can't respect your boundaries?

Of course, another approach would be to simply lie to him, and I think guys who push too much in this area of questioning are asking to be lied to. If a girl has only had one or two lovers, she will generally make this known.

[Rob26]

Lying is best! If your new guy is Liberal and worldly, tell him "5". If he's just Liberal, say "3". If he's neither Liberal nor worldly tell him "1" and "it was a mistake".

[Rob26]

My numbers: 27 and 2. But both were gangbangs and I don't know if you would count those. (?)

[vashti]

Really? What do you mean "gangbang"? Details, please.

[Rob26]

I mean I went over to some guy friends apartment and they had some other guys there along with a girl that was taking all comers in the bedroom -- and I took her up on her offer. Basically, the same scenario, twice, but with 2 different girls.

Not the best conditions for sex I'll admit. I wouldn't do something like that now due to having fear of STDs.

[vashti]

Oh my God!!!

I didn't realize there were girls who would do that in real life. I thought that was just something you might see in a porn movie. Yuck. You need to have sex with a normal girl.

[Ellynn]

Yeah sometimes history is best kept secret, which the exception of having an STD of course. I mean face it you could get a STD from sleeping with JUST one person.

I know my friend's husband found out how many she was with thru another source. (A journal she had that she forgot about.) Anyways, he was pissed when he found out it was greater then 10. (I think mainly because his number wasn't nearly as high.) Anyways, now whenever they argue, he brings that up and throws around words like "whore" and "slut". I don't understand that shit! I mean she didn't even know him when she was with these other guys! But, he just can't let it go. I see them headed for divorce court soon. He is the typical obsessive jealous guy now. Scary.

Why is it that guys can have sex with lots of girls and think its no biggie and yet if women have a number greater then 5, they are sluts?

Oh yeah and ROB, find yourself a real woman and try sex one on one. That whole gang bang thing is kinda gross.

[Ellynn]

That's ridiculous. It would give me great pleasure to smack a guy like this up a bit.

I know, same here. Its sad because they fight every week. Its gotten awful! I want to help, but its like how much should I get involved? She loves him but yet bitches to me about everything. I just listen and try to offer support and words of advice...like to leave him.

He has been buying her gifts lately after they fight. She thinks everything is ok then....and then they go right back at it. I've seen bruises in prints of fingers on her arms and legs. Its awful. They have a kid together too. He's one. She can't leave because she has nowhere to go. She has a 6 yr old from a previous relationship and he hits my friend in front of the little girl. She tries to defend her mom and he gets even more pissed.

This all stemmed from him finding this journal of hers that she wrote down some of the guys she was with and her experiences. She honestly forgot about it. He found it a few months after they got married. Now he just treats her like crap.Before he found it, he was always really sweet to her and treated her like a princess.
I'm actually afraid for her. He moved in with her but is now telling her to leave if she wants but he won't let her take their son.

I wish I could help her before something bad happens. Sorry Kathy for going off topic a bit.

[Rob26]

Well, those episodes were years ago when I was 20 and 21. I really don't regret doing it.

Ellynn, your friend's example is why women shouldn't have so many sexual partners and if they do, then should lie about it. I don't see why Aegis is upset about it, though.

[Ellynn]

Well, those episodes were years ago when I was 20 and 21. I really don't regret doing it.

Ellynn, your friend's example is why women shouldn't have so many sexual partners and if they do, should then lie about it. I don't see why Aegis is upset about it, though.

She was honest with him in the beginning and told him it was quite a few. He was fine with it, until he read her journal and all of the details. I asked her why she even wrote that crap down! Anyways, still, it was before he was with her. I don't understand his insecurity. I mean she had a daughter when they met. He obviously knew she had been with some guys. Oh yeah, and does that give him a right to call her a slut or a whore? If he had been with that many women, she would have left it alone. It wasn't a big deal because it happened before they even met!

She was in relationships with these guys too! And NO, no gangbangs either!

See guys always get away with this shit! But a woman for some reason deserves to be punched or smacked around a bit and called a whore!

I don't understand this.