My Best Friend

[Raziel]

Hello Guys..

I would like to share this dillema with you, as i havent been able to get any useful answers anywhere else and I'd appretiate some help from you guys.

Here's the story...

As the title speaks it out loud, the story i have to tell, is about my best friend.For the sake of anonimity,lets name her Bonnie.
She's a year younger than me,that is 17.

I met Bonnie in high school.At first we didn't even talk much but later thru the year,we developed a liking for eachother which led to a start of a beautifull friendship.Everything went fine, untill about a year ago i started to feel more than just friendship about her.
Today,I dont know who to turn to,so i came seeking help here.
Shes been my best friend for 4 years now,and belive me or not,in four years of being best friends we never had a single argument.



I would lie if i said that i love her...i dont think there's a word to describe how i feel towards her,i think the most accurate explanation would be, that i feel like she's my soul mate,i've always felt like she completes me.She has always been there for me,and when i fell,she always lend me her hand.

The main problem of the situation is that she has a boyfriend....she has been dating him for a little more than a year....and I have been waiting all that time, figuring out if i should tell her or not, I was swingin between the two options for quite a while, but I did not yet told her my feelings.

my point of view...
If i tell her now when shes got a boyfriend i think there would be no effect.
I am absolutely sure that she wouldnt dump her bf just because i told her i cant live without her anymore.

So the point, or the true question im asking you is...
Do you think its worth to wait and continue to loose my sanity,
or should i take a shot and tell her my feelings are true?

[Gigabitch]

It's never a good idea to try to come between a couple. You've waited this long. Wait some more.

[Raziel]

yea...my thoughts exatcly...allthough its killing me...

[Gigabitch]

Then die knowing you did the right thing.

Personally, I'd advise against the whole idea of dating your best friend. I did this a long time ago and it really hit the fan. I lost him.

[sexy_lumber]

i agree w/z giga. wait some more

[Raziel]

Thanks for the advice guys...u were very helpful.

[Zach]

Yes definitely wait. If you care about her you will let her be with him. If you two are soul mates then fate will its way with you. Let it happen in due time. Good Luck. --Zach

[anachronistic]

waiting, is probably your best bet.

the best thing for you could be, the night she breaks up, be the one there for her. let her cry on your shoulder. comfort her. when she starts to become happy again, tell her how you feel.

[Ellynn]

Wait it out, or at least try to date around in the meantime. I don't believe in coming between two people either.

If it's meant to be for the two of you, it will happen.

[Raziel]

Yeha....ur true...love her too much too intervene...guess ill just wait....and hope for the best.... ty all

[JohnsonROd]

Wow... all these people telling you to wait?

Sorry man, they're all wrong. Fact of the matter is that when you started having these strong feelings for her... you're not really her friend anymore are you?

You have an agenda.

Ask yourself if she stays with him for life... will you always be just her friend?

If YES... get over her and go for someone else, and remain friends..
If NO... then lay your cards on the table of how you feel. Let her know you really Love her... and then walk away from it.

At least she'll know and the ball is in her court.


FYI, letting her cry on your shoulder is probably the worst thing to do. You don't want to be the shoulder to cry on... you want to be her man. So man up and try. YOu're only 18... they're plenty of women out there.