How should I tell her i love her?

[JamesBrimble]

UPDATE!!!

Well guys, you were right. I just got back from the party (it was a disco party with no alcohol, but, hey i'm 16 and it turns out i didnt need alcohol to help me)
So basically we danced alot together, and at the end of the party, she kissed me on the cheeck, then i kissed her on the other cheeck, then it carried on from there
I did have 1 pint of guinness (however you spell it) over the course of the night (i didnt pay, my mate did, so i though i may aswell drink it slowly)
So, yeah. I talked to her friend just before she dropped me off at mine about 10 minutes ago, and she said she REALLY likes me and that if i ask her out once she gets back home, i'll be in.

So thanks for all the advice and it turned out as we all hoped. Cheers again.

Okay, a friend of mine likes me. Now she doesn't know that I know she likes me, but I know through her friends telling me.

This girl is always being really nice to me, and there are sometimes moments when we are staring in each others eyes and get lost.

She was going out with a guy for the last 2 months out of guilt. He was pathetic and we all knew it, she did too. Out of the two months they were going out, he never kisses her properly, just pecks on the cheek. yes thats how sad he was. but she was too nice to turn him down (i also got this from her friends). She would also always bitch about him to me on MSN, and other things like when she comes round my house. She hated him, but was too nice to dump him.
On MSN we would always send love hearts and hugs when each of us would leave, and we sometimes hug each other in real life (wow yes, i do have life outside the computer ) but we never worked up the courage to say anything to each other.

NOW, im always getting my friends and her friends to tell me what she thinks of me and to put good words in about me, and to pursuade her to dump him.
In a way I was evesdropping, but I really love her. I dont do it as much anymore, but I want her so bad that I cant let anything go wrong.

I talk to her friends and they say "she never stops talking about you, and you never stop talking about her, but you never do anything"
I guess im too scared to loose such a good relationship if something ever went wrong..

So a few days ago, OUT OF THE BLUE, i hear from my friend that she dumped him. So i was then, very happy, and she was too.

Now... My friend is renting out a hotel room (one of those massive rooms where they give out awards and stuff) and she's going. But here's a problem, the guy she dumped is also going. Now, after he was dumped, he asked me if there was anything going on between me and her, because he was suspicious as to why he was dumped out of the blue. I told him that there wasnt because lets be trueful, there wasnt. But he told me i should tell her how i feel about her and me, because he said he thinks she likes me and thats why she dumped him.

So this party is at 8PM on saturday, and shes going to be there. I have to tell her that I love her, but im so scared that i'll lose her. I know she likes me, and she knows I like her, but im still too scared of losing a great friendship with her.

What shall i do!? I really want to kiss her too. Im so confused, its breaking me up.

If you could help it would be so useful. And tips would be great. thanks.

JB.

[Gigabitch]

I'll bet by Sunday morning, you'll be updating this thread and telling us you kissed her Saturday night.

You know you're going to. Buck up, little camper. It sounds like a sure thing, and IMO, your friendship is already compromised by mutual attraction.

[Off2College]

I don't think you should use the word "love." You sound like you are still young, and throwing that word as the first sign of affection might be too much. You should save that word for when you two are actually going out (which would be soon).

A great tip to get the whole bf/gf thing going is this:

at the party, get her alone (obviously), strike up a conversation, and then somehow find a chance to compliment her in a suggestive way. ie i think you're cute. That should set the stage for everything else. If she shys out after that comment, then just go all out and say that you like her.

[JamesBrimble]

That seems easy enough. Im sure i'll **** up somehow, though.
I never know where to put my hands or how to stand, then i start getting conscious and concentrate on my hands and feet more than what im trying to say.

[Off2College]

since you'll be at a party, just get a couple of drinks. dont get drunk, obviously. Just tipsy, so that when the opportunity arises, you wouldn't give two crap about your "hands" or "how to stand." And i mean, if you really can't look at her in the eyes when you say it, you don't have to. the important part is getting the words out there and judging her response. Look, is it better to not do it and worry about it constnatly, or to just get it over with and get a girlfriend?

[JamesBrimble]

yo guys, read the update at the top of the original post

[windycity]

James, are you still online? help me out with my situation.
Please read my posting. Thanks.
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