Originally Posted by
Oasis
Me and my Boyfriend have been dating for 3 years now. He put a promise ring on my finger the second year.But October 06 we had some of the hardest times,october was a verry stressfull month for both of us, we fought every single day of that month.On halloween we had gotten into an argument over somthing stupid, and i said somthing along the lines of "well if i make you so unhappy then leave me" and thats when he said he didnt know if he wanted to be with me anymore, and was considering leaving me.
Later that night he said he was sorry about the things that he said, but that he had been fearing that he would hurt me while he was away at collage, hurt me by getting into a fight with me over the phone and saying things he didnt mean, or getting drunk and doing somthing he would regret,ect.
After that night things were fine for that week, untill the weekend. We had spent all saturday together,at the end of the day, we were driving when i asked him if he truley wanted to be with me forever,thats when he got quiet, and i asked him to pull over so we could talk.
Then he proceeded to tell me that he wanted to leave me now before he hurt me later.Of corse i was in shock, i started to cry and asked him why. At this he got verry fidgety and kept looking anywhere besides me. He told me that he felt differnt, that he didnt want to be with me forever, that he didnt want anything with me.Shocked i layed my head on his shoulder and cried,wisperd i love you, and after that he grabed me and started crying, not bawling, but crying, hard. He told me he didnt know what he was doing, that he loves me too much to leave me, that in saying those things he realized he wants to be with me forever,and apologised,and asked me to forgive him.
So now its 4 months later and things are great.He has been talking about getting married, having a baby, ect ect, and somtimes asks if i still love him for no reason. These are all good things, but i cant help but to feel scared that he will do the same thing agin, Im scared to trust him FULLY ( im not saying i dont trust him at all) the kind of trust i had for him before, i just feel like he betreayed my trust that day, and i dont ever want to hurt like that agin, i told him that if he wants to leave me, then dont wait, to do it now, and he says things like "No! i love you! Im never going to leave you!" He also refuses to say he almost left me that day, he says he was just being stupid and scared that day.
Guys, what do you think of this? Is it safe for me to trust him as i did before? Have you ever been in this situation?