New here, please help

[scarlett21]

Hi all,

I'm new here and am looking for some advice because i have never been so confused in my whole life!!!

Recently i've been hanging out with this guy, who i must say is the loveliest guy i have ever met. We only ever held hands, but that was realy nice. Anyway, my feelings for him have been changing so much, sometimes day to day sometimes minute to minute. Because of this, we have kind of decided not to see each other in the same way, but we're at college together so will still be friends. He says he cares about me so much and wants me to be his girlfriend, but my indecision is really hurting him, and i can't bare to do that to him because he is so lovely.

Anyway, i know that he is the best guy i could ever meet - we want exactly the same things in life (marriage, children) and i know that he wouldn't ever leave me after years of being together and run off with someone else, which is really important to me. I guess that i have a slight issue with his physical attractiveness, i know i'm shallow, but it matters doesn't it?? He's not the worst but not the best looking either and i'm not sure whether this is at the heart of my indecision or not? Part of me thinks / knows that if i found a better looking guy then he could possibly be quite a player, and not want the kind of things i do. This then makes me think i should settle for this guy as i know he would do everything in his power to make me happy. And he does make me happy, when we're together we have such fun until my little doubts creep in.

I guess i'm also scared as i haven't really had a boyfriend before and some aspects of intimacy scare me (not that this would be a problem with him as he's so considerate and even asks if it's ok to hold my hand).

I just don't know what to do?! Sometimes i just want to kiss him and be together forever, and then other times i get scared and my feelings change. What's going on?!

He says he's crazy about me and i just don't know what to do.

Please help!!!!!!!!!

Scarlett x

[Gigabitch]

Scarlett, if you have to talk yourself into it, then it's not right. The beginning of a relationship should be like a tsunami of attraction. You shouldn't be giving yourself a pep talk before the honeymoon phase is even over.

Let him go so he can find someone who's really into him. He deserves that.