how do i let go?

[TheKissPolice]

me and my girlfriend of four years,we have had a good closure yesterday but still
the sound of her voice crying on the phone haunts me,it makes me think if i did the right thing,she said that the load has been lighter when i told her "im letting you go" but it still makes me think what if i tried to get her back,and by the way she suffered more than me from our long distance relationship,but as of this moment all i can think about is her and the good memories she left me,not to mention the heartache.

[Bogi]

Yah, that's normal.

Whenever you dump someone the first reaction is..."I'm hurting because I hurt this person... I should run and go back to them because it will take all the pain away".

Well... what happens next is ... The relationship picks up right where it left off... it's good for about a week, cause you're both on your best behaviour... Soon enough, all the old problems start to resurface... Then my friend... You have to break up with her again...

and guess how easy THAT is the second time...

Don't do ANYTHING right now... You're out of the relationship... out of it. So think HARD about what it was you didn't like about her... and go out and flirt with other girls and see whats out there before you go back to this one.

[Gigabitch]

Bogi's right. You have to be strong, even if you have to tell yourself it's only for her sake.

You'll get your balance back, and then you'll be able to move forward.

[TheKissPolice]

thanks for your inputs,i guess that is reality i have to not live in a dream anymore,i have come to realize that not all can last forever,not all relationships are made to be fairy tales.