1st Relationship, Worth Investing In?

[Gribble]

I think most people get hung up on relationships when they're a lot younger and much less mature. That's why many of us come down hard on them. You have a sound head on your shoulders. The fact that you're questioning your relationship at all proves it.

[Junket]

Of course there are exceptions. The only problem is that everyone thinks they ARE...

To clarify, I understand this was in regards to marriage but I think it's applicable.

I'm still terrified of failure, but my dilemma is that there's no possible way I'll ever know if I don't try.

I just hate the idea of being one of those statistics.

I almost feel like a hypocrite because I'm in the very kind of relationship I would've condemned a year ago.

...

But now it seems I'm projecting my frustrations and insecurities on everybody else. Sorry Vash.

Oi...this can be a mindjob...

[clynn]

Maybe try not to think of it as FAILURE.

Trying something out and going for something and then if the relationship doesn't work doesn't mean that you've failed. Or that she has failed. Or even that the relationship failed. Just that it ended, so that something else could happen.

Not failure.

And...besides...it might not even end!

[vashti]

Why don't you just go with the flow and LEARN from each other. This doesn't have to be a failure even if it doesn't end up happily ever after.

[clynn]

Why don't you just go with the flow and LEARN from each other. This doesn't have to be a failure even if it doesn't end up happily ever after.

That's what I meant to say!

Vashti articulated it MUCH better!

[Vain]

I think any relationship where both are really involved and actually 'love' each other is worth investing in. The first is not necasarily the last. I know a guy who went on one of those dating sites which I think is ridiculous and he ended up marrying the love of his life after a couple months. Its hard to say sometimes but I think its worthwhile.

I didnt 'invest' enough in my first relationship and thats why its now called my first relationship and not my current one and yes why dont you just go with the FLOW as Vashti said?