Well, I just dont get what's the fuss all about, I mean, Love, why is suddenly love so important and our lives become so empty without it?
Do really our lives become empty without love? And I mean love in all kind of ways, towards a companion, family, friend, even job or the nation you live or born in.
For personal experience, I think more important than Love, it's myself that its important, and that works for everyone, not as "myself", but as the "individual".
I mean, everyone has its price, sometimes the price can be surprisingly low, but everyone has one, that price is the objectives, well-being, dreams and projects everyone has for their own. If someone has a project to start a family, off course it will get a partner, make or adopt children and get married, if someone's objective is to climb the Himalaias, of course that person will learn how to climb, buy the necessary objects to do it and try to overcome the big mountain.
It's all based in how much someone profits with the situation they are in, no one is engaged or dating another person if they don't find a way to profit for themselves, wether is sex, being loved or love the other or even just be and talk with the person it's considered special.
But if that persons stops garanting the "profit" needed then what happens is that they break up, wether it's because it stopped finding him/her interesting, attractive or because the "other" has changed.
With family, it happens the same, the family is just a group we're inserted in since our birth and it occurs the same "contractual process".
We are born because two people wanted to, wether it's to have a chance of prolonguing their genetic material or because it's just a personal project.
We are fed, thaught and nurtured by our parents cause they want us to fit in a society so we can follow the normal path of having a good life according to the modern standarts. So, family, ends up being a symbiotical chain of relations.
With friends happens the same, friendship is one of the most common ways to fit it, to don't feel alone and rejected, so basically, we are establish friendships so we dont want to feel alone and rejected.
In all these cases, the main verb wasnt «to love», it was «to want», and the only reason we «want» it's because it benefits us, it goes towards our personal objectives.
Basically, we establish harmonious interpessoal relationships of any kind to reach a personal objective, and for what I get, we don't need love, we need to get our own objectives, projects and dreams succeed.
For those who think this is a "anti-love" text, I answer this is just a reflection I made some time ago.