Don't know..

[dashT]

I'm going on this as a shot in the dark, but I figure why not rant here...

I'm in a relationship of about 4 years now and I think I need to make a decision. I'm sometimes attracted to other women that I'd want to possibly flirt with and at some points, hooked up with, while in my current relationship. I'm not saying it was right, but it felt right. I felt like I was falling in love all over again. My girlfriend is great and I don't think I want to leave her, but there's a fine line between love and comfort. If I leave her, I don't think I'd find anyone else that loves me as much as she does, and I know that's not a reason to stay with her. I do enjoy her company and we still are affectionate towards each other, so I don't think I've fallen out of love with her, but I can't explain why I get attracted to certain people and flirt with them, and then question my current relationship.

Sometimes I think that the attraction\flirt thing is a phase, but it happened more than once, and sometimes I fall hard for the other girl, which I can't figure if it's just an attraction or for real. I'm pretty confused, and I know it's not fair to continue a relationship with doubt in a worse case scenario....any advice? Thanks for listening.

-Dash

[Mittins]

Well i dont know if you can really trust an inexperienced guy like me but my oppinion might help so What the hell.

You might be spending a little too much time with her, so you get bord, or somthing. try spendding less time with her or even go on a prolonged trip so you dont see her for a while then you will see how much you really love her because you miss her. Too little time in a relation ship= bad, too much= bordum and need for something new.

Not to be rude or anything, but kinda like my video games, i play too much i lose intrest and need somrthing new. Even if its my favorite game.

hope it gives some idea.

[LostNotFound]

^ i disagree. coz you've been together for 4 years the excitments gone/died down. i suggest you tell her this and find ways to spice it up.

[loveDoc]

Actually i agree with both. I can definitely say that i understand the situation as i have been in one. My girlfriend and i have been dating awhile. The excitement will never last unless you spice up the relationship. Its a good thing that you spend a lot of time with her, yet it pretty becomes the same thing over the year. You see her, you take her out and you spend some private time. If you think about, it become very repetitive. One solution suggest from above is to spend less time with each other. True that would work, but then having to tell your partner you want to spend less time together, how do you think they gonna have in mind. Alternatively, try something different. Surprise her/him (doesn't mean you have to shower them with gifts). Take her somewhere she's never been before. Do the things she enjoys even if you don't. For instance i started reading books that my gf enjoy reading. Hell yeah did i surprise her. Surprised myself too. Anyways all i can say is goodluck !