I need advice!

[lau84]

My boyfriend broke up with me about 4 months ago. I was treating him badly and hurt him alot. Since then I have realized that he is truely what i want, i don't know how to get him back though!

We talk every once in a while, and saw each other for the first time in 3 months a couple of weeks ago.. it was great! He was hugging and kissing me but we haven't really talked since!!

He took my necklace off while i was there, and now i have to go back and get it... did he do that so i would have to come back?

How do i get him back? And do you think he is still interested? Help!

[Gigabitch]

Well, was the necklace an expensive present he had given you in the past? Perhaps he lured you over there and kissed you just so he could get it back.

Okay, I'm kidding. Why haven't you called this guy? It sounds like he was giving you another chance, and the ball is pretty much in your court.

Are you waiting for a sure thing before you even try? Sorry. Nobody gets a guarantee. All you can do is give it your best shot, so get off your ass and go get your boyfriend back.

[lau84]

Yea the necklace was and expensive gift, but it wasn't from him!

He said he wanted his space when we broke up, that is why I haven't been calling him that often.

What should I do when i go to pick up my necklace? Should i tell him i want to get back together?

[Gigabitch]

Absolutely. What have you got to gain by playing it cool?

Have you done the abject apology thing for treating him badly? You should. He should know that you are completely aware that you ****ed up, that it was your fault, and that you regret it.

Then drop it. If you go on too much about how sorry you are, it become more about you requiring his forgiveness than about wanting him back.

[lau84]

Last time we hung out we talked about it and i told him i was sorry for all of it and he said that he forgave me... so should i try to make it up to him??

I'm afraid of getting rejected, but i am almost positive that he is not dating anyone right now... i just dont know if he would want to get back together?? I know i have to prove to him that i will not hurt him again, i just don't know how to do that?

[Gigabitch]

Well, first he has to give you a chance. Then, it will take time. You might be thinking that if you make some grand gesture, like tattooing his name on your back or something, he'll see that you mean it, but really, the only thing that will work is if he can see that you've really, truly changed your day-to-day behavior.

[lau84]

I know i have to prove to him that my day to day behavior has changed... i just need that chance. And i am willing to work on it...

so do you think he pulled the guy thing and took my necklace so i would have to go back? If he did i guess thats a good sign right?

[Gigabitch]

Or he pawned it. Only one way to find out.

[lau84]

Haha well i talked to him last week and he said that he had it... so hopefully since then he has pawned it!

[CAM]

Did he give you the necklace? If so, maybe he just wanted it back so he could give it to his next girlfriend. If not, then maybe he wants to tempt you over to his place.

[misombra]

I know i have to prove to him that my day to day behavior has changed... i just need that chance. And i am willing to work on it...
so do you think he pulled the guy thing and took my necklace so i would have to go back? If he did i guess thats a good sign right?

and i'm willing to stab myself in the stomach.

[CAM]

and i'm willing to stab myself in the stomach.

Gawd, don't do that! You look so damned fine in the two piece swimsuit...the scar will be horrible.

[misombra]

i'm pretty bitter right now with people who treated their significant others like shit and now want them back because now they're willing to work on things.

gag me with a light pole.