Hi all.
I'm in my mid-twenties, and I recently ended a year-long relationship that started way too fast. We knew each other for about 2 months when we decided to move halfway across the country together (I got a good job, and she was ready for a change). This was NOT the norm for me; I'm usually very cautious and don't take chances.
I had been unhappy for a few months when I finally decided to share my feelings. We both hate confrontation to a fault. Because of this she was floored by the suggestion that we end it.
She has made her feelings clear that she is convinced I am the one for her, and that she will wait for me and do anything it takes to make it work.
The relationship was very fulfilling for me in some ways, but she just isn't the one.
I feel a tremendous amount of guilt for "doing this" to her; I dragged her across the country, she had to break an apartment lease for lots of money, the new town is a million times worse than the town where we met, etc...
I considered giving it another shot, but "I won't be doing her any favors" blah blah blah.
The relationship I was in previous to this one (lasted about 2 years) also ended because I couldn't commit to her, and I didn't feel like she was the one.
Why can't I tell people I don't want to be with them as soon as I decide? What can I do to improve my communication style when faced with confrontation? I know it's not so cut-and-dry and no relationship is perfect.
For those of you that have found "the one" and made it last, did you ever have doubts in the beginning?