College Take 2

[Off2College]

Hi all.

Once again, I have returned to this forum for relationship support.

As a second year student, I'm realizing that my sexual urges are peaking... they are higher than they have ever been before.Even my professor told me that when he was this age at Dartmouth, all him and his buddies could think about were girls. Especially with the cut-throat academics... similar, if not greater than MIT... and high stress, I feel I need to find sexual relief.


With my last girlfriend, I actually wasn't into her sexually, and the relationship was completely emotional. Which was why it took me about 8 months, until the present, to really get over her.

Furthermore, myself has changed, in that I am actually ready/prepared to try sex. Or maybe its just that my physical urges have finally overcome my previously chastity beliefs.

I find that lust and the longing for a relationship is becoming a greater part of my life than it has ever been before, and if not starting to infringe on school performance.

I am almost convinced that I need to find a girlfriend this year, and have sex. The bodily urges are just... so high.

What have you done to control/handle this situation while you are in your sexual prime?

[miSSleepy]

well, whoever you find, I feel sorry for her if you're mainly after sex

[Moonchild]

If you find a girlfriend, don't do it for the sex. That's probably the best way to hurt her and earn yourself a bad reputation among her friends. You're old enough to buy porn. Live with it until you find someone you're attracted to emotionally and physically. If you want to have sex, let it be part of the relationship, not the reason it started or the driving force.

[Off2College]

Yeah but I believe my physical, unconscious drive for sex will blind my emotional self in looking for a gf. Ie. I will predominately go for looks.

And the porn stuff, after doing it almost regularly for 2+ years, is really, really getting old.

Plus finding an emotional relationship is... difficult. I mean the right girl is so hard to come by.

[ExpoNovak]

If sex is all you are looking for, just go after a one night stand at a party from time to time. There are women out there looking for the same thing. I love the women's sexual revolution. It makes our lives SO much easier.

So, what's this business with chastity beliefs? No previous sexual experience? Not that its any of my business, just curious.

[Gigabitch]

What have you done to control/handle this situation while you are in your sexual prime?

Well, I have lots of sex. I have so much sex, in fact, that I'm not plagued by thoughts of it while I'm trying to get things done.

However, because I am female, I have an extremely emotional approach to sex, and it takes a lot of maintenance on my boyfriend's part to keep me happy. Think about whether or not you actually have time for a girlfriend, because I seriously doubt you're going to be "Mr. Hookup". That's just not you.

Oh, I know! You should find someone who is actually busier than you are and start dating her.

[Off2College]

One thing to clear up. My last girlfriend really screwed me over (no pun intended) because she ended up dating a guy who was only in it for the physical stuff. Back then, I held a strong belief that relationships should be all emotional, and pre-marital sex takes away the sacredness of sex.

But now, I realize that I am just human, and have human needs. Moreover thinking about sex and girls is a big distraction ATM, so I want to get it over or something.

And yes, I am not a one-night-stand person. I don't go partying at all. Don't get me wrong, I want an emotional relationship, but I believe that getting physical, for me at this stage of my life, is just as important. In fact, physical is what is driving me.

And yes, I love the idea of finding a girl busier than I am, because those are the girls I'm checking out atm. My school curriculum is extremely rigorous, and all the girls are as motivated. It really turns me on, actually, when a girl is extremely motivated.

Getting that girl is the problem. obviously. Unless they are as sex-starved as I am.

[Gigabitch]

Unless they are as sex-starved as I am.

They are. They just won't admit it.

[DoesntMatter]

Ahhhh I feel your pain man! I FEEEEEEEEL your pain! I'll go the library and try to get stuff done, I'll have labs due, textbooks to read, homework to complete, and essays to write, and all these smoking hot college girls get me thinking about sex. God help me

College girls are so hot it's mindblowing. Such an upgrade from high school.

And I know what you are saying about the porn getting old. It's been getting old since middleschool. Seriously, I started watching porn when I was what... In 7th grade? How many ****ing years do I have to put up with watching sex on the internet and feeling like such a shit? I'm a freshman in college now. It's unbearable. Especially with all the beautiful girls walking around all over the place and knowing how many lucky guys are getting laid because they have that "magic" (there is no other way to describe it). And you feel like you are the only one who isn't "getting any". Seriously, can I at least get a kiss or something, once maybe? Hell ****ING no, no rest for the wicked. I try using that old saying to justify why I can't get laid.

Just so you know, I'd prefer an actual girlfriend over random one-night stands by a huge margin as well. But I know this is college, a lot of girls just want to get laid (nothing wrong with that btw!). I think for the vast majority of people, they already went through that "sweet-heart girlfriend" thing stage in high school, and college is now the time for promiscuous sex and clean, good old-fashioned bodily fun and fornication. So we simply missed that high school stage, just jumping on the train at a later stop biatch!

So yes, off2college, I can assure you many girls here at like the guys, they just want to get laid. I can see this by all the hookups taking place all around me. The walls in my dorm are paper thin, you can hear the drunk sex on the weekends. So ya, you're gonna feel short-changed when you have to take it into the shower and beat one out. But that's just life...

Good luck man!!!!

[miSSleepy]

Yeah but I believe my physical, unconscious drive for sex will blind my emotional self in looking for a gf. Ie. I will predominately go for looks.

And the porn stuff, after doing it almost regularly for 2+ years, is really, really getting old.

Plus finding an emotional relationship is... difficult. I mean the right girl is so hard to come by.

stop making excuses. You have a brain - use it.

[Charlie Boy II]

Ahhhh I feel your pain man! I FEEEEEEEEL your pain! I'll go the library and try to get stuff done, I'll have labs due, textbooks to read, homework to complete, and essays to write, and all these smoking hot college girls get me thinking about sex. God help me

College girls are so hot it's mindblowing. Such an upgrade from high school.

And I know what you are saying about the porn getting old. It's been getting old since middleschool. Seriously, I started watching porn when I was what... In 7th grade? How many ****ing years do I have to put up with watching sex on the internet and feeling like such a shit? I'm a freshman in college now. It's unbearable. Especially with all the beautiful girls walking around all over the place and knowing how many lucky guys are getting laid because they have that "magic" (there is no other way to describe it). And you feel like you are the only one who isn't "getting any". Seriously, can I at least get a kiss or something, once maybe? Hell ****ING no, no rest for the wicked. I try using that old saying to justify why I can't get laid.

Just so you know, I'd prefer an actual girlfriend over random one-night stands by a huge margin as well. But I know this is college, a lot of girls just want to get laid (nothing wrong with that btw!). I think for the vast majority of people, they already went through that "sweet-heart girlfriend" thing stage in high school, and college is now the time for promiscuous sex and clean, good old-fashioned bodily fun and fornication. So we simply missed that high school stage, just jumping on the train at a later stop biatch!

So yes, off2college, I can assure you many girls here at like the guys, they just want to get laid. I can see this by all the hookups taking place all around me. The walls in my dorm are paper thin, you can hear the drunk sex on the weekends. So ya, you're gonna feel short-changed when you have to take it into the shower and beat one out. But that's just life...

Good luck man!!!!

DoesntMatter it sounds like you need to put sex in the back of your mind and just get more comfortable talking to girls first. You don't want to be talking to women with no hungry eyes.

The other thing is, not as many people are f-cking as you think. What are you? Eighteen, they're plenty of 18 year old virgins around. And, you have plenty of years of f-cking ahead of you.

[Kiechi]

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[vashti]

I really don't understand why you boys don't start dating... You can't have a girlfriend if you never date casually. Isn't sex drive the very thing that motivates dating? Why else would you put up with girls?

I also agree with charlieboy. Plenty of college girls aren't having random sex, and the ones who are, you should avoid. DM - you are probably hearing the same four or five girls being passed around your dorm. Gross.

[Lynae]

I just have to say that this thread is cracking me up!

Ok, from a female's point of view, like Gigabitch said, we take sex from more of an emotional approach. If you really want it, you just have to date...get to know someone...wait until you find someone you have a connection with. Or go for a one night stand with one of those 5 girls that are getting passed around the dorm. lol

No, seriously, don't stress so much. It'll come. No pun intended.

[DoesntMatter]

No, seriously, don't stress so much. It'll come. No pun intended.

Haha... what?