Should I break up with her?

[nfgfan]

Basically I have been together with my girlfriend for nearly 2 months now. She has many amazing qualities and we have many things in common.

The problem is that lately I've been questioning our relationship. Meaning, a few times in the last 2 weeks or so I've wondered if I should really be going out with her. But every time I end up seeing her in person these feelings typically go away.

The reason for this is because, I'm not really sure how attracted I am to her. To elaborate, I think shes cute and when were intimate I'm physically attracted to her. It's just when I look at her I dont think to my self, wow that my girlfriend, she beautiful, I get more of a feeling of hey thats my girlfriend shes cute but she has a great personality.(Not the best example off course, but this just gives you guys an idea of what Im talking about).

I think the problem is that i typically I dont really go for girls of her type(all of my past g/f and girls ive been interested have been brunettes, and she blonde.) I don't know if this exactly is the reason behind but I'm thinking it may be a possibility.

How im feeling is hard to explain...basically my previous girlfriends have been better looking then her, and I feel that im maybe unconsciously comparing her to my previous g/f and I maybe think i deserve a better looking girl. In a sense I think i maybe "set the bar to high" w/my previous girlfriends.


My question are these feelings a sign that I shouldn't be going out with her and were likely better of as friends. Oris it common to get these types of feelings when going out with a person typically different from your normal taste(appearance wise)? Should i tell her im having second thoughts about our realtionship, or is there anyway i can bring this up to her without outright saying this and not hurting her feelings?

Please Help!!

Thanks in advance to everyone for their help.

[gartlas]

thats a bit shallow.Do u feel you just cant be with her because she's too ugly?no.If u love her then stay with her ,you have no reason to break up with her!if not then u should give it a while,two months isnt always enough to form a relationship that involves love.

[nfgfan]

Yea i mean i know this comes of as really shallow but unfortunatley i can't help how i feel...and i'm not in love with her either(its only been two months). I get along with her really well and like a lot of qualities about her, it just the recent thoughts of the whole attraion/looks thing that has been kind of on my mind

[Gigabitch]

Should i tell her im having second thoughts about our realtionship, or is there anyway i can bring this up to her without outright saying this and not hurting her feelings?

What are you thinking, "bring this up to her"? Are you ****ing crazy? If you want to end your relationship, do it. If you don't, then you need to do anything you can to make a go of it, which includes refraining from making hurtful and worrisome statements.

Is there really an imbalance in your relationship? Yes, she's less attractive than you would like, what is she letting slide? Maybe the fact that you're emotionally retarded?

[nfgfan]

Ok for starters i would never say anything that hurtfull to any female(let alone g/f) what i was asking was, is there any way i can express my feelings or should i express my feeling to her in anyway(without actually flat out telling her my concern with the appearance issue).

I just don't think its right for her to think everything is great and keep leading her on, if i'm having these kinds of thoughts, Which is why i wanted to know what i should say to he

or is what im feeling somewhat normal and has happened to others before?

[Gigabitch]

Well, to be honest, it has happened to me. I had to break up with him. If the chemistry's not there, nothing else matters.

Why are you dating her anyway, if you're not even all that attracted to her?

[IndiReloaded]

Ok for starters i would never say anything that hurtfull to any female(let alone g/f) what i was asking was, is there any way i can express my feelings or should i express my feeling to her in anyway(without actually flat out telling her my concern with the appearance issue).

I just don't think its right for her to think everything is great and keep leading her on, if i'm having these kinds of thoughts, Which is why i wanted to know what i should say to he

or is what im feeling somewhat normal and has happened to others before?

So you think that b/c you don't *say* it, that makes it better? You are already *thinking* it, so the damage is done. Now, its just a question of your integrity.

You must be in your teens or early twenties. Heaven help you if you're older. One relationship lesson you need to learn asap is that what *isn't* said causes at least as many problems as what is. Lies by omission (silence) is still a lie. The only difference is that you're also lying to yourself in this case. If you're not really into her, stop dragging it out. Show some respect, for her & for yourself.

[Gigabitch]

I totally agree about the lies of omission. Honesty is the best policy, and that doesn't mean you should tell her you don't think she's attractive, it means you should let her find someone who does.

[cheeze_guy]

I just hope that this girl isn't like the chillest girl in the world cuz if she is and yer worried about looks then yer gunna get ****ed when u go for a hot one that everyone wants and she cheats on u For sure u have to be attracted to her but you already said you are so do what u do but make it work for u