In love with best friend...

[dalton]

Well im 21 and in my last year of college. Iv known her for about 3 years but on got really good friends with her in the last year. I moved in with her, her boyfriend and a few other mates for 3 months in the summer and we just clicked. I never really fancied her before but i felt like I found my soulmate and this let to me falling for her. Due to her work she had to move out but we seen each other every weekend and about one nght a week. She is useually the one texting me and wanting to meet up. She has tolt me lots of times that she loves me and misses me like crazy (as a friend i presume) I tell her i love her and meen it. Her boyfrinds a good guy and has become a friend and respects that we are very good friends but he may be a little anoyed as he's away in college and i see more of her than he does. There are a couple of strange pts like on a few occations if the 4 of us are going into a club together she'll hold my hand and pretend to the bouncers that shes with me... Altho shes with the boyfriend bout a lear and a half and i wouldnt be surprised to see them settle down when he finishes college next year. I really cant see them breaking up, iv never even seen the argue. So.. should i tell her how i feel and there is a very small chance she'll pick me but at least ill know where i stand and can get over her, our friendship would prob suffer or just keep being there incase they break up. Am I too deep in the "friend zone" even if they do. Id be pretty sure she put me down as her best friend.

[Michael6084]

dude, id just be friends with her and wait until he and her break-up or find someone else. if you always been around each other for 3 months, then id understand why'd you develop something. i remember for a good year i tried to get with a girl who already had a boyfriend and while she was flattered that i liked her, it didnt get me anywhere.

you two seem to have a good friendship and her boyfriend seems like a cool guy, but i think she's trouble if she's trying to get you to like her by having her tell the bouncer that she's with you.

let's say she does like you and you two become a couple, think of how shitty the cool bf she already has will feel and there is a possibility she'd drop you off for someone else just like she would do to her current bf while you two would be going out. i think she could be trouble despite her being all cool

[Off2College]

I didn't have time to read your entire post,

But, i'll give you my 2cents from experience

My first and only gf so far was my best friend before I asked her for a relationship. The relationship didn't last long for reasons. After that, we stopped talking altogether.

Now she's got me blocked on facebook, and ignores all my emails.

I didn't do anything wrong to anger her or anything. Hell, we saw each other for a grand total of 2 days in all 6 months after it ended. It just is awkward, wrong, or whatever word you want to use.

Well, that's the worse case scenario... I guess

[Gigabitch]

The relationship didn't last long for reasons. After that, we stopped talking altogether.


I didn't do anything wrong to anger her or anything.

Dude, you broke up with her. I'd venture a guess that this is a big part of the problem.

Dalton, if you tell her, your friendship will be forever changed, possibly ruined. IMO, it's ruined anyway, because you're in love with her.

I say tell her, just so you can move forward with your life. You're in limbo.