She needs "time alone." What about me?

[ABnegativ]

So my ex left me. It's hard for starters because we still live together until I get a new place. Which should be another week or two. But it's devastated me. I can honestly say I've never felt like this about anyone. Never been this much in love.

She says she's got a lot of issues, she needs to work on them before she can move on with her life. She's still been getting angry when I talk to other girls, try to set up dates, asking me how i could do that to her.

I onnnllyy want to be with her, but look what she's doing to me! i have to move on right? I tried to ask her last night if i should move on and forget about her, or if we're definitely getting back together. She said we could "date" but it was still an eventual maybe/maybe not with us getting back together.

how do i move on? living here hurts so much. i know i have to move. that'll still be a couple of weeks though.

[Michael6084]

well i wouldnt worry about it too much because what she's doing is better for you in the long run and she seems mature about it.

but don't take it personally like as if she's leaving you, because of you. it's obviously her own thing.

[squirrley]

I was in a similar situation, our relationship was 8 yrs and we decided to seperate but we were locked in a lease. That SUCKED! Eventually I moved out, but during that time we remained friends even though I still loved him I knew it was the best in the long run, and it was. Just keep yourself busy as hell until you leave. I wouldnt mention if youre dating other people, but youre rebounding and hopefully these people know youre not ready for anything serious.

She's being nice to you which is good, makes the transition easier and she's being honest with you too.

goodluck

[Gigabitch]

She's still been getting angry when I talk to other girls, try to set up dates, asking me how i could do that to her.

I onnnllyy want to be with her, but look what she's doing to me! i have to move on right?

Maybe you should consider moving OUT before you move ON. Jeeze, man, what the hell are you doing?

[ABnegativ]

Maybe you should consider moving OUT before you move ON. Jeeze, man, what the hell are you doing?

do you realize how bad it hurts? i would do ANYTHING to kill this pain.

[vashti]

I agree with giga. It is inappropriate and insensitive to be attempting to date while still living together.

[Illusional]

here's a different opinion.. she's using you buddy. she has a place to live and a guy who is still in love with her. shiet, me and my ex's would have sex even though we weren't a couple. of course we could date other people, but why should we if we are already having casual sex??

secondly, she gets mad at you because you're moving on before she has the chance to. it's like a little game where you always want to be in first place.

raverboy

[Zenmarke]

Hmm.. I dont know about you.. But for me.. If i still Love that girl.. I'll give her a space... Do what you want!! I'll do mine.. something like (COOLOFF).. You should relax and put yourself together before doing stuff like moving on... Make sure to decide the right thing.... Hope i help.. >_>

[ABnegativ]

Yeah, thanks... I've realized I'm not ready to move on. Maybe after I move out, but certainly not now.

I had the chance to "hang out" with a girl last night and quickly decided it was time to go home. Where I convinced my ex to come to bed with me.

We've decided we're going to share the bed until I move out. just to make this hurt less for both of us. I'll be out in a week.