Originally Posted by
Gigabitch
Don't ever give him another blowjob. If he misses it enough, maybe you can work out a compromise.
I love giga's sensitivity to the whole situation.. lol
anyway, I had a couple of guy friends of mine have fears of going down an a new partner (which is what you are)..
there are a couple of reasons..
1. The vagina is a breading ground for bacteria.. luckily most women take care of it.. but the male version of the (sex hurts the first time talk).. is "the vagina is a dirty place talk".. where a barrier gets placed to prevent the guy from having sex.. The good news, this rarely works on guys, UNLESS thier first time with a woman happens so fast that the girl has no time to properly clean herself, and the odors are pretty strong (so is the taste)..
2. Speaking of taste, the actual experience may be unpleasant (strong taste, hair in the way, very wet area getting messy, etc.) This just takes some getting used to.. It personally took me a good 4-5 times to get very cumfy with going down there.. after that, i've become a little too cumfy.. always prefering to eat out than have someone else cook (if you know what I mean)..
3. Yes, some loser guys, no offense to your bf, are too lazy to go online and use the wonderful resourse that the internet is.. and do some research on how to properly go down on a girl.. (it's called limewire, and after a while, he's bound to find some interesting porn showing him how it's done).. But if he really wants to learn.. get some lesbian friends.. I didn't properly learn how to go down on a woman until I spoke to 2 lesbian friends of mine.. All the tricks, rhythmic patterns, etc.. these women have it down to a science, and have no inhibitions about telling all; it's like you're talking to a guy..
what you have to remember is that he's not doing it out of spite.. so don't result to spiteful tactics, because you'll only be making harder for yourself to have him co-operate and giving him an actual reason to be even more spiteful towards you and actually hold out.. which is not what he's doing..
the best thing you should do about it.. is stop being such a drama-queen, and go talk about it.. openly.. (no subtle hints, or messages).. just flat out openly talk about it.. if it helps, say the words (penis, vagina, pussy, dick, clit) 2-3 times together before you start talking.. it helps release feelings of inhibition.. the key to a successful relationship is communication.. so start talking..
there's only a very SMALL population of men out there who don't LOVE going down on their partner.. mostly because deep down inside.. they all know that it's the only one time they're actually giving pleasure to their partner.. but that's an other story.. lol
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