Are all women egocentric???

[Gigabitch]

Yes, they are.

All of them.

Take Giga for example, or 'Sombra here.

Finally, someone starts talking about ME!

[celestialxs]

(because, I am the dedicated wingman.. and now that i'm still single.. is when i'm most useful and have the least inhibition)..

Single...what a shocker!

[GrkScorp]

Single...what a shocker!

haha.. nice try.. but i'm single by choice, not by consequence..

I have to admit.. i'm my own worst enemy when I look at women.. picky doesn't begin to describe me.. I think I suffer from some kind of split personality thing.. I can feel it.. it's almost like multiple sides of me are talking to me when I first see someone new..

Example: I see a woman..

Me:"Wow, she looks pretty good".. (Starts walking over and talking)
Me (Part 2): "Eww, look at her feet, pretty dry and rough for a girl"
Me (Part 3): "What the hell kind of shoes is she wearing?!?!?"
Me (Part 4): "Yuck, her hair is so dry and that color is totally fake and doesn't even go on her"
Me (Part 5): "Is she seriously trying to stroke my ego during this conversation.. is that how she attracts guys, how pathetic, and rude"
Me (Part 6): "O.K. nothing exceptional or special about her.. she's seriously not worth your time and energy.. just keep it friendly, be polite, and move on.. clearly not for you.."

This all takes place about 2-5mins after I start talking to the person.. and while initial attraction may have been there.. I'm quickly put off by what seems like a million little immaterial things.. that all add up to lead me to the conclusion (this person isn't worth my time and energy)..

Now, given.. I just came out of a 3 year relationship.. and I am talking to a couple of new women who i'm still faintly interested in.. I hope my interest in them only grows and doesn't start to fade.. but so far.. one of them looks very promising..

[Gigabitch]

Grk, you are CAM waiting to happen, I swear it.

[celestialxs]

haha.. nice try.. but i'm single by choice, not by consequence..

I have to admit.. i'm my own worst enemy when I look at women.. picky doesn't begin to describe me.. I think I suffer from some kind of split personality thing.. I can feel it.. it's almost like multiple sides of me are talking to me when I first see someone new..

Example: I see a woman..

Me:"Wow, she looks pretty good".. (Starts walking over and talking)
Me (Part 2): "Eww, look at her feet, pretty dry and rough for a girl"
Me (Part 3): "What the hell kind of shoes is she wearing?!?!?"
Me (Part 4): "Yuck, her hair is so dry and that color is totally fake and doesn't even go on her"
Me (Part 5): "Is she seriously trying to stroke my ego during this conversation.. is that how she attracts guys, how pathetic, and rude"
Me (Part 6): "O.K. nothing exceptional or special about her.. she's seriously not worth your time and energy.. just keep it friendly, be polite, and move on.. clearly not for you.."

This all takes place about 2-5mins after I start talking to the person.. and while initial attraction may have been there.. I'm quickly put off by what seems like a million little immaterial things.. that all add up to lead me to the conclusion (this person isn't worth my time and energy)..

Now, given.. I just came out of a 3 year relationship.. and I am talking to a couple of new women who i'm still faintly interested in.. I hope my interest in them only grows and doesn't start to fade.. but so far.. one of them looks very promising..

Yeah, I'd say there's something abnormal going on in your mind when it comes to your views on women. Good luck with that.

[Charlie Boy II]

Grk, you are CAM waiting to happen, I swear it.

That's exactly what I've thought.

[GrkScorp]

Grk, you are CAM waiting to happen, I swear it.

Why? what's the deal with CAM?

as for me being messed up in the head.. I have to both disagree and agree.. yeah, I've thought about it.. it's not normal.. I would enjoy women on a much higher level if I didn't think that way.. in the words of some guy (ignorance is bliss).. but the flip side to that is that I filter out people who I really would be unhappy with.. for either physical reasons or mental ones (personality, etc.)..

being picky isn't a bad thing for as long as you're satisfied at the end of the day.. which I am.. I guess there's a different satisfaction.. when I talk to someone.. and I can deduce by the different tactics they're using.. that more or less, they're interested.. and it's up to me if I want to follow through or not.. so in that sense, it's boring.. and any interest I may have had is washed away..

it's pretty bad.. because i'm not talking about flat-out obvious displays of interest.. but subtle tests that someone will use to see if i'm interested.. and well.. when enough of these add up.. the only logical motive for all that effort is that they're interested.. so either directly or indirectly.. I get the hint.. and I lose interest..

I guess I really don't know what I want.. for the moment though.. it's a great time.. great sex.. great communication and companionship.. I need to find someone to take care of and pamper.. I know it sounds strange.. but that's the urge that i'm having.. lol.. for the moment.. I think I may have found that one person.. but i'll have to see..

[Gigabitch]

Damn, that was fast....

Anyway, the deal with CAM is that he, I think, is possibly pickier than even you, having had 15 more years to refine the habit, and he is now wondering if he is EVER going to find Mrs. CAM.

He also tends to systematically dismiss all contenders before even getting to know them.

CAM, do you agree with this?

[IndiReloaded]

Anyway, the deal with CAM is that he, I think, is possibly pickier than even you, having had 15 more years to refine the habit, and he is now wondering if he is EVER going to find Mrs. CAM.

He also tends to systematically dismiss all contenders before even getting to know them.

There! 'Law of Attraction' in action... mwhahahahaha!!

He's busy still writing out all those zeros on Miso's cheque, I think.

[CAM]

Cam's on the way over w/his chequebook right now, Miso. Are u ready to elope & have a dozen of his little Cam-lings?

Yeah, I'm on my way...right after I finish writing this damned book chapter and doing my weekly administrative paperwork. At the moment, I'd just settle for an espresso and sharing a creme brulee with Mis. Not in the mood to create Cam-lings at the moment...been told that I'm kind of stress out beyond all recognition.

Speaking of stress...ever get so tense that your neck muscles tighten up and you can barely swallow? Had to sip a beer at lunch just to calm myself down and relax my neck muscles.

[CAM]

Damn, that was fast....

Anyway, the deal with CAM is that he, I think, is possibly pickier than even you, having had 15 more years to refine the habit, and he is now wondering if he is EVER going to find Mrs. CAM.

He also tends to systematically dismiss all contenders before even getting to know them.

CAM, do you agree with this?

Mmmm...I wouldn't say "picky"...I'm more or less a handsome, well-groomed, comfortably-off eccentric bachelor.

I stay up til 1 in the frickin morning, writing. I spend nearly all of my free time with older people in the neighborhood or aging relatives. The tried and true connections with those individuals...I'm going to enjoy every moment I can with them in the years ahead. When I'm alone, I can think about what I want to do with the rest of my life. Hopefully, the rest of my life is "life" and not just "existence." I'll probably just become a total recluse and continue to write.

So, contenders dismissed out-of-turn? Probably when I was younger; although, I can become passionate about a woman very quickly. Now, there really aren't any contenders because I'm never really around any possible contenders...caccooned. A friend of mine says that the message I emit is, "I'm very busy and I don't have time for you."

[Mish]

Now, there really aren't any contenders because I'm never really around any possible contenders...caccooned. A friend of mine says that the message I emit is, "I'm very busy and I don't have time for you."

I think if you don't want the complications of having a partner that's perfectly normal.

[misombra]

"I'm very busy and I don't have time for you."

that just reminded me of that episode of seinfeld where george castanza would look like he was busy and in a hurry so he would seem important. aaaaahaha. i miss that show.

[CAM]

that just reminded me of that episode of seinfeld where george castanza would look like he was busy and in a hurry so he would seem important. aaaaahaha. i miss that show.

Except, I really am busy.

Yeah, Seinfeld. Good show. Watched the reruns every night before I go to bed--usually on around midnight.

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