some advice

[ceas87]

I've been talking to this girl now for about 3 months. We have a lot of interests in common, and we get along really well. About a month ago I confronted her to ask her where we stood. I told her I was interested in her and she seemed surprised as if she didn't think I was. And told me that she was interested in me, but followed it up telling me shes not able to have a relationship now with being extremely busy with work and school. For about 2 months we've hung out almost every other day. Lately its been only twice a week. And the only reason is because shes really busy with school/work and serious family issues. Now we haven't even kissed, and this probably seems silly but if I want something to workout I take it slow. Now I'm wondering if I should kiss her or just wait. She never backs out of plans I make with her, if anything she reschedules just to hangout with me, but at the same time she doesn't want me to wait around for her. I almost think unless I make a move or do something romantic she'll just want keep things how they are. I don't really see her telling me "I want a relationship now" (could be wrong), its probably something I have to spark. What do you girls think?

[Mish]

You should wait for the right opportunity and test the waters before you do something risky like being romantic. Why not engage in a more date like behaviour, dinner, movies, DVD night and then see if planting a kiss is appropriate.

I once dated a girl who wasn't interested in me, but she let me get as far as watching movies at her place and me kissing her (which she enjoyed). Too bad we didn't have the right chemistry. But you can create interest, by being interested yourself even if interest is not really there to begin with.