Dating "down"?

[Charlie Boy II]

gold diggers deserve to be treated like sluts. I say give 'em hell once you get there DM.

[DoesntMatter]

Don't get me wrong. Ask anyone on this forum...I'm not soft at all. But using social status like that is still the wrong thing to do.

No I'm not saying you're soft, just that I won't be able to mistreat women who notice me down the read when I'm in an expensive car, even though I at one point wanted to

And I know it's a real dick thing to do, I have to put up with legacy kids at school driving around in mommys and daddys $100k car thinking they are the shit. And know that is annoying as hell, especially given that it's people who EARNED their way into the school that give it a good name. But to reserve such actions for only those who have it coming...

[celestina]

What is it you are worried about being financially responsible for?

If his partner has very low income, it would mean he'd be responsible for food, rent, clothing, health care, among many others... It's quite a lot to be responsible for!

[vashti]

If his partner has very low income, it would mean he'd be responsible for food, rent, clothing, health care, among many others... It's quite a lot to be responsible for!

Sure, maybe if he MARRIES her. i thought he was talking about dating.

Anyway, regardless of what social class she comes from, men often end up being responsible for these things anyway, as someone else already pointed out. This is what traditional roles in marriage always look like. Men have been doing this for thousands of years, while women are primarily responsible for keeping the household, raising the kids, and kid's education. :shrug:

[Off2College]

that's where upscale or upwardly mobile girls come in... or good ole' WASPS

[vashti]

LOL! That was the model our society was built on! It was *normal* to have that arrangement, regardless of social class. Men used to take pride in providing for their families. It was humiliating if a wife had to make up for a man's inability to provide.

[Charlie Boy II]

haha you sound rather wistful

[Mish]

Sure, maybe if he MARRIES her. i thought he was talking about dating.

Anyway, regardless of what social class she comes from, men often end up being responsible for these things anyway, as someone else already pointed out. This is what traditional roles in marriage always look like. Men have been doing this for thousands of years, while women are primarily responsible for keeping the household, raising the kids, and kid's education. :shrug:

For at least 5 years between pregnancy and pre-school.

Doesn't that just make you want to rush out and have dozens of children? (When you're something like 50)

[vashti]

Doesn't that just make you want to rush out and have dozens of children? (When you're something like 50)

No! My little kid days are over. I look forward to working at this point. Staying home with young kids is very often harder than working, unless your work conditions are deplorable. (I've done both.)

[Mish]

Hehe, was meaning to aim it at you Vash

I was mainly talking to the guys here

[taxiskycrazy]

I hate this idea. What's this to do with her family background? unless she really has a horrible family that you can't deal with. Her effort towards excellence is what matters.

[CAM]

How many of you have experience with dating someone from a lower social class or income bracket?

I admit that I'm sort of a jerk when it comes to these things because I don't want to be financially responsible for a girl from a family with a lower income bracket. Social class isn't important, but income bracket is pretty important...

Social dumpster diving? It was fun in my 20's. I always liked the dirty biker chick types with the tight blue jeans and those litte white books with the frilly leather stuff on them. And the black leather jackets with the fringe. And, a white tank top of course.

And far too much make up, naturally. And cheap perfume.

Hmm. The old days.... well, it was fun at the time. Wouldn't do it again, however.

Have fun.

[CAM]

typo....I meant "white boots"

[reeba]

I can't believe no one posted anything from this point of view.

So you want a girl from a upper middle class family or above. That means she will expect YOU to at least help to support her in the lifestyle she is accustomed to.

It is her FAMILY'S money, not hers.

People who grew up with $, tend to be the most ignorant when it comes to $. They can't budget. They want everything now. In addition, you will also be dating the parents, they control the purse strings, thus control part of the relationship.

Find a girl who is making her OWN money, or at least have the ambitions to do so.

[Mathias]

Somebody please listen to reeba. That's some damn good posting up there.