I've been with my girlfriend for almost 5 months now and I remember near the beginning when she would get really horny and take charge, she would push me onto my back and get on top and rub her self all over my body. Lately, she has become a lot more passive in the bedroom. She still says she's getting really horny, but she doesn't act on it as much as she used to.
I'm a Leo so I'm naturally very passionate in the bedroom, its my nature to LOVE to please. I'll go down my girl every night we are together because I love the feel of her squirming with pleasure. So you might say I sorta take charge in the bedroom a little bit, but I really loved it when she would match my passion and take charge sometimes too.
I have thought of several reasons for this decline in sexual drive but ultimately it is a mystery to me. Its possable that I take charge more than I should in the bedroom, or maybe since school started she has been more stressed out and as a result its been draining her sex drive, or maybe the upsets we've had not related to sex have changed things during sex too.
I have two questions really... One thing she used to do is go down on me a little bit, not go all the way but she would suck on me for a little bit, and I found it... flattering because I knew she was willing to return the favor, but that hasn't happened for a long time. Recently I asked her if she wanted to 69 and she just kinda blew it off. So how do I get her to be more willing to give as well as receive... and how do I get her to be more open sexually with me?
Here are my ideas so far: Stop going down on her so often and tease her a lot more during foreplay. Be straight forward with her and tell her that I really liked it when she used to take charge a little more. Buy a book on sex and make a point of reading it together.
Any advice would be appreciated...
Thx,
Tennyson