Originally Posted by
dollface82
just don't know what to do.
Well.. i'm 23.. and I can tell you this much..
"Love is a wave, Trust is the Ocean"
Without love.. there's still trust.. and that's what friendship is for.. but without trust, there is no love.. I know it all sounds cliche', but there's so much truth to this..
Love for the other person is a combination of alot of factors.. sure, attraction plays a role.. but so does respect.. emotions.. but above all, there's TRUST.. why? because trust creates a sense of comfort and security that is vital in a relationship.. comfort and security knowing that your partner only wants the best for you.. is going to tell you everything.. there are no secrets.. has only your best interest in mind.. and in essense, that is a major part of what love is about.. so without that in the relationship.. where can things possibly go? what sense of comfort & security will you have?
I also don't think that age-gap is healthy.. my grandparents were 12 years apart.. but these days, times are different.. an age-gap that large can mean that perhaps you are only a "toy" in his eyes.. someone her can give minimal love & attention to.. keep in a box.. and then pull out anytime he wants to play..
You're better than that.. you know you are.. so forget him and move on.. you're simply worth more than that.. open up your options, explore the wealth of guys that would actually care enough to hold "trust" as something THAT important.. so if you meet some 23 year old guy from an online forum.. I say go for it! But seriously.. you don't want to be wasting time headed down a dead-end street.. end it.. and find someone who you can have a healthy relationship with.. one where trust isn't violated; where it's respected..
Last edited by GrkScorp; 01-01-08 at 05:19 PM.
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