Should I go for it?

[Giggity]

Hello everybody. I have been around these boards for quite a while, but I never thought I'd ever post anything. However, I need advice and you guys tell it like it is.

I'll try to keep it short, but here is some important background information. I'm 23 and have never had a relationship. This isn't because I am inept socially (quite the opposite), but has more to do with my Dad passing away a couple years back. I've just not allowed people to get close for fear of losing them. However, I have recently decided to try and get past all this and put myself out there.

This brings me to my current situation. A couple of months ago, I met this girl through a few friends. At first there was nothing, but during finals we started to talk more and get closer. Then the night before I had to leave for Christmas break, I went out with her and a few of her friends DT. Needless to say, we were drunk, and holding hands and kissed (great timing I know). Anyways, we kept in contact over Christmas and I said I liked her and vice versa.

So today I ended up asking her on a date for Saturday and she said yes. However, that would be too simple. She tells me that she is a little hesitant about starting something because she might be leaving for London next year. She mentions that she wants to keep it casual (she'll find out in a couple weeks if she is going or not).

Ultimately I will have to make my own decision (assuming things actually go good) but I am wondering if any of you have been in a similar situation. What did you do? How should I approach the next few weeks? Am I just setting myself up to get burned? Should I forget it? I tell myself I should, but I really like her and I think that I eventually got to put myself out there.

Thanks.

[vashti]

Sounds like a great opportunity to gain some dating experience... This is what casual dating is all about. Have some fun.

[Mish]

Ultimately I will have to make my own decision (assuming things actually go good) but I am wondering if any of you have been in a similar situation. What did you do? How should I approach the next few weeks? Am I just setting myself up to get burned? Should I forget it? I tell myself I should, but I really like her and I think that I eventually got to put myself out there.

Thanks.

Go for it. What have you got to loose? If she leaves you'll find someone else. If she leaves but you haven't tried you will kick yourself for having sat on it without doing anything. Who knows, maybe you'll turn out to be one of those life changing guys for which she'll abandon her plans?

(Unlikely) But, you do need experience, so just go for it! What should you do? Dinner, movies, have fun and enjoy yourself. Don't talk about anything serious just let it flow.

[anachronistic]

Take the chance, Giggity. You'll regret it if you don't.

[Giggity]

Thanks for the replies! You guys are definitely right and I guess I just needed a push. I've been analyzing all these "what ifs" when I should really just be going with the flow.

So I got a date on Saturday and I intend to enjoy it. I don't know how everything is going to work out, but like lilwing said, I'd regret it if I never even took the chance.