Guys what do you think?

[tabbik]

Hi Guys, I caught my boyfriend on a online porn site. I felt disrespected and hurt. We have been dating for a little over a year and has previously shown me ways about himself that I am getting to not trusting him very much. I am about to end this relationship as I don't think this is going to get any better.

What is it about guys that do things they know will hurt the feelings of thier lady? Why don't men care?

Just to add that I have been a loyal loving caring lady in my mans life and he's about to lose me.

Thanks for listening

[Mathias]

Oh, really, who gives a shit?

Get over it. EVERY single guy does it.

[GrkScorp]

Woah! Anyway..

On a more compassionate and sympathetic note to the situation..

It has nothing to do with YOU. Have you seen some of these women in porn sites/movies/pictures? Take a close look, they're all deformed from years of hard pounding and sex, and tons of surgery. In addition, they lack that feminine element to them. The majority of porn stars who are women, are rather manly, and unattractive.

So why on earth does he still do it? I have no idea, personally, there's that rare occassion when i'm really in the mood, but I know it's going to go away in an hour, and maybe I don't have anyone on call i'm in the mood for, and 1 hour isn't not enough time to find a total stranger and get them slowly comfortable and worked up and familiar enough for seduction.. and then sex.. that takes around 10 hours time.. So the easy thing to do is just go online and do what you have to do.. (even if those women are slightly unattractive, it's an urge you just have to satisfy, and if you have the power to satisfy it, why not?)

But! For a guy who's in a relationship, (given you have sex often), I don't see the need for porn. I just recently came out of a 3 year relationship, and I never watched porn during that time, there was simply no need. why?

- Better to watch porn than to have to call over someone you haven't talked to in a long time and want to stop talking to
- Better to call over someone you're still talking to/having fun with, than to watch porn.
- Better to have sex with your Long-Term partner while in a relationship, than to watch porn.

That's just the way it is.. porn is a safety net that should remain untapped.. If you think hard enough about it, it's even a mark of being lazy or socially clueless enough to not attract, comfort, and seduce a woman into sex.. (so is being in a relationship, but that's an other story)

So, if your sex-life isn't hitting numbers as reasonable as (3 times a week), then you need to work on that; because this can very-well be the cause..

If your sex-life is hitting numbers of (5 or more times per week), then it's HIS problem, and you can't let it go, you have to sit down and talk to him about it, tell him why it bothers you, tell him how you feel, how it makes you feel, and just go about it that way until you work something out (the clearer you are about how it makes you feel, his natural male protective instincts will kick in to make him want to cut it out and protect you from emotional pain/suffering)

[vashti]

If he is only doing it occasionally, I don't really have a problem with it. It ain't about you.

That being said, I know a LOT of women have issues about this. I just don't understand it.

[BrotherCanada]

yeah i'd feel disrespected if i was in your shoes too, some men it becomes habit, it isnt a disrespect to you, i think you have to just turn a blind eye, or tell him that it is disrespectful to you.....hey maybe he's trying to find out some new moves for you.....just looking on the bright side

[GrkScorp]

hey maybe he's trying to find out some new moves for you.....just looking on the bright side

actually this is true!

It totally depends on what kind of "porn" he's watching.. obviously hardcore porn has no real value for that purpose..

But maybe he's watching something to get ideas.. (highly unlikely, but still probable!)

[Mathias]

actually this is true!

No, it's not. Nobody looks at porn as an instructional video.

[NeoSeminole]

do you f*ck your boyfriend every night? If not, then don't complain when he watches porn.

[Gigabitch]

No, it's not. Nobody looks at porn as an instructional video.

I strongly disagree. It may be rare, but I've heard of it.

[vashti]

do you f*ck your boyfriend every night? If not, then don't complain when he watches porn.

...unless, of course, he is too busy wanking to porn to come and get the real thing...

[1averagejoe]

Give the guy a break...he probably didn't tell you because he was embarrassed and worried of your reaction. It's normal, there's nothing wrong with it. And almost all men do look at porn.

[Off2College]

do you guys have sex?? If you don't have it often enough, then you should forgive the guy.

[Nkeno]

Men visiting porn sites, strip clubs, and the sort is totally normal. It doesn't merit a break-up from you. Every man does it ! As a woman you should know this.
However, if he continues to do this on a regular basis (like thrice a day or whatever) then it may be due to the fact that something is lacking in your relationship.