How to get back your ex bf/gf?

[salty]

Hi, recently my bf have just broke up with me.. The reason is to pursue his study, career, have more time of his own, time with family, frens etc.. He has started to change ever since he is out of NS and entering the society..and he have told me that his feeling for me has fade and do not love me as much as in the past.. Our relationship has got worst since half yr ago and not long ago, I hardly able to contact him.. We always quarrel over this issue when I started notice the commitment level drop suddenly.. We've been together for 3 yrs plus and been thru alot.. I've always thought we can survive and last ever longer since we've gone thru his NS life together..

I really dont wish to end this relationship without trying anything.. hope anyone can give any advice.. =)

[Mathias]

Only way it's going to happen is if you let him go and he starts to miss you.

That's not guaranteed, but even bothering him a little bit at this point is going to make him go away forever. No contact.

[salty]

Only way it's going to happen is if you let him go and he starts to miss you.

That's not guaranteed, but even bothering him a little bit at this point is going to make him go away forever. No contact.

Yes, I've been bearing this in mind..that's y I've nv been bothering him..esp he is preparing for exam now.. But ever since the breakup he is the one initiate the communication..sms, call etc.. I know I cannot rush into getting close to him again, but just can't help thinking of him everyday esp when I'm alone..sigh

[Mathias]

Yes, I've been bearing this in mind..that's y I've nv been bothering him..esp he is preparing for exam now.. But ever since the breakup he is the one initiate the communication..sms, call etc.. I know I cannot rush into getting close to him again, but just can't help thinking of him everyday esp when I'm alone..sigh

Don't respond to his communication.

You need to move forward as if it's totally over, which there's a 95% chance it is.

[salty]

Don't respond to his communication.

You need to move forward as if it's totally over, which there's a 95% chance it is.

But i'm afraid if I ignore his msg or call then he might not contact me anymore.. Can it be occasional reply? Do you mean there is a 95% chance that it will be over?

[Mathias]

But i'm afraid if I ignore his msg or call then he might not contact me anymore.. Can it be occasional reply? Do you mean there is a 95% chance that it will be over?

Yep. When someone breaks up with you, you have about a 1/20 shot of ever getting it back.

So basically, it's over, deal with it. If something happens, great, but you need to move on.

[Gigabitch]

I've gotten exes back in the past, more than once.

Believe it or not, the most attractive thing you can do at this point is move on with your life. Always respond to his attempts at contact, but not always immediately. Do things you haven't done in the past- like take a new class or pick up a new hobby, anything that expands your horizons and changes the fact that he knows all about you.

If you are more interested in yourself and your own life, it's more attractive than just sitting by the phone, pining away. He will NEVER come back to you if you do that. You have to be more than you were.

Besides, if he misses the boat, you'll be involved in new things to keep your mind off him anyway, so you have nothing to lose.

[salty]

I've gotten exes back in the past, more than once.

Believe it or not, the most attractive thing you can do at this point is move on with your life. Always respond to his attempts at contact, but not always immediately. Do things you haven't done in the past- like take a new class or pick up a new hobby, anything that expands your horizons and changes the fact that he knows all about you.

If you are more interested in yourself and your own life, it's more attractive than just sitting by the phone, pining away. He will NEVER come back to you if you do that. You have to be more than you were.

Besides, if he misses the boat, you'll be involved in new things to keep your mind off him anyway, so you have nothing to lose.

Thanks both of you for the advice, I think I know what I should do.. Maybe it takes sometimes for me to put it down and carry on my life.. I'll try no matter wad.. Thks guys =)