How can I avoid oral sex?

[Tiay]

yay, java got angry ^.^

thanks for the details. Look, it may not be perfect, but, of all the people who come to this forum because of problems with their manipulative, asshole boyfriends.. you're the only one I remember having come to your sense so quickly. In fact, most seem to not manage it at all. This might be a loveforum record.

Things will probably suck for a while. He might weave you into his crazy stories- to his next girlfriend (and I pity her already) you'll probably be described in a completely different/exagerrated way, lol.

but who cares? At the end of the day, you've made a very important experience here, and all that matters is that you learn from it

[vashti]

Ugh. I am really glad you didn't have sex with him. Forget slapping him; you should be thrilled you walked away with your virginity intact. If it makes you feel any better, you should know that most of us older women had to suffer through at least one bad boyfriend to learn how to pick better, and picking better is the best revenge.

BTW - his friends already know he is a lying scumbag. I wouldn't worry at all about what they are thinking.

[java303]

i am angry cuz i have so many questions on my mind that i couldnt ask him....if he is so into his ex and if he cant love me why on earth did he spend time with me....yes once i asked him out. instead of saying yes he should have rejected it.

oh tiya, he is such a loser that girls dont even take him seriously. i remember in the class before he became my friend he used to flirt with this girl who at the end just got fed up with him...he asked her for her email addy and she basically said no...and he is always online chatting which shows that he has no life. he will basically have no one after me...all this years he is been with me

[Illusional]

i am angry cuz i have so many questions on my mind that i couldnt ask him....if he is so into his ex and if he cant love me why on earth did he spend time with me....yes once i asked him out. instead of saying yes he should have rejected it.

he said yes to you because of the same reason that you started this thread, he knew that you were a sucker to begin with. he'd snap his fingers and poof, just like magic his dick was inside of you.

raverboy

[java303]

he said yes to you because of the same reason that you started this thread, he knew that you were a sucker to begin with. he'd snap his fingers and poof, just like magic his dick was inside of you.

raverboy

hmm, u know what? i didnt put his thing in my mouth....i was only using my hands while the liquid started oozing out...and thats when i got the smell.

and oh while talking to him on stds i mentioned to him about this....he tried to put me down again by saying that all dicks are like that..and if i cant take that smell that means i wont be able to go down on anyone...he was like u r "doomed".

right now i am feeling extremely sad....i want to cry, but i am out of reaction. what i didnt go through because of him....last year was so horrible...he used to tell me bad stuff just to see me upset cuz he thought it made me look and behave cute....and he mentioned it to me last week...i felt like a fool once again!

its strange that everytime i tried to go away from him he brought me back by using emotional words and cursing his ex.

[Junket]

hmm, u know what? i didnt put his thing in my mouth....i was only using my hands while the liquid started oozing out...and thats when i got the smell.

and oh while talking to him on stds i mentioned to him about this....he tried to put me down again by saying that all dicks are like that..and if i cant take that smell that means i wont be able to go down on anyone...he was like u r "doomed".

right now i am feeling extremely sad....i want to cry, but i am out of reaction. what i didnt go through because of him....last year was so horrible...he used to tell me bad stuff just to see me upset cuz he thought it made me look and behave cute....and he mentioned it to me last week...i felt like a fool once again!

its strange that everytime i tried to go away from him he brought me back by using emotional words and cursing his ex.

You need a little self confidence boost.

After you get past the angry/regret phase, you should really be proud of yourself for getting past such a weasel. He's definitely an emotional manipulator. What's worse, is he probably doesn't even realize it.

No, most healthy penises will not have that kind of smell. In fact, after a shower, the penis should smell/taste just the same as the rest of a guy's body.

[Gigabitch]

Java, you need to stay away from this guy. Yes, you're telling yourself you want to slap him and all, but I think a little tiny part of you just wants to see him again, to have him change it and make it all better, for him to say he loves you.

Of course you want that- you're in love with him, and that's going to affect your ability to stay strong if you see him, so avoid him at all costs until you're over him. Otherwise, you could find yourself in that hotel room after all, giving him your virginity as a parting gift.

Don't do that.

[java303]

Java, you need to stay away from this guy. Yes, you're telling yourself you want to slap him and all, but I think a little tiny part of you just wants to see him again, to have him change it and make it all better, for him to say he loves you.

Of course you want that- you're in love with him, and that's going to affect your ability to stay strong if you see him, so avoid him at all costs until you're over him. Otherwise, you could find yourself in that hotel room after all, giving him your virginity as a parting gift.

Don't do that.

no, gigabitch, i am not easy when it comes to sex.....so i wont give my virginity to him...i am in my 20s, changed 2 boyfriends, but never thought of having sex with one.
i am just fed up of being manupulated....u have no idea what he has done with me....one time he told me he loved me...n then said he was trying to love me..n now suddenly he said he doesnt love me n wont, but wants me with him in hotel room....what am i? some kind of a puppet? what have i not done for him? i broke up with the one who loved me so dearly, everytime i thought i hurt him for some reason i went back to saying sorry to him, every single night i prayed to god for his happiness and success...i tried to make all his holidays memorable by doing anything special i could. everytime he felt lonely and depressed i made sure to do anything to cheer him up. what do i get after doing all this? nothing but invitation of being with him in bed. i have been toooo good to him, but i cant take this anymore.....i am tired of being selfless.
i usually stay strong when i see him....other times we r chatting online and this chatting thing creates too much emotion in me and i give up...and see now that i rejected staying with in the motel he is basically giving me attitude in emails n im.

[Tiay]

java, we just really want you to fall back into that trap. we've seen it happen.

[Gigabitch]

Usually what works best is the rule of No Contact. That means no chatting, no talking, so seeing, no slapping, nothing. It sends your heart a message that it's time to start healing.

[IndiReloaded]

i am just fed up of being manupulated....u have no idea what he has done with me....one time he told me he loved me...n then said he was trying to love me..n now suddenly he said he doesnt love me n wont, but wants me with him in hotel room....what am i? some kind of a puppet? etc...

You're nearly there, Java, but you are still responding to his comments personally, thinking "What am *I*" & that sort of thing.

What you need to start thinking is: 'hmm, interesting... there he goes again with <insert manipulation technique here>'. And either laugh to yourself or just ignore it for the problem that is his.

THEN you'll be free. Oh, and stay away from him, physically & communication-wise. That will also help.

[Junket]

Seriously, I don't see why you're talking to him at all.

He's a dumb shit weasel who should be raped in the ass by a large black man.

Don't talk to him anymore.

Just don't.

He doesn't even deserve an explanation.

[java303]

Seriously, I don't see why you're talking to him at all.

He's a dumb shit weasel who should be raped in the ass by a large black man.

Don't talk to him anymore.

Just don't.

He doesn't even deserve an explanation.

oh well, i feel a lot better now since i got a chance to yell at him on the phone....he couldnt say a word...thats a relief!

oh why we talk? cuz we r still friends.....have known each other for 4yrs.....! and even in these four yrs i couldnt see his real face which is as dumb as his character! no wonder nobody from our class remembers him....he is just a shallow minded pathetic loser.

oh frasbee, he is very proud of his huge body and thing.....says that my vagina is too small for his thing.....thats why i will agree with u on the face that he really really should be raped by a black man.

[Tiay]

.....thats why i will agree with u on the face that he really really should be raped by a black man.

for someone who wont say the word penis, you're feisty, java.

[Baud's Bitch]

Dude, it sounds like he's got an STD. Seriously, get that checked out. A man's stuff should not be that gross.