Fix Me Pls!!

[Mish]

hmm...let me see.
My issue, i still have the trust (that's the basic, trust gone, relationship goner). I feel insecure basically is myself. I over imagine things...like when she goes silent or i'm not by her side, i will imagine many many things. Mostly is not good, and i'll be restless and sleepless.

I know the problem is myself, i need to fix myself. anybody have any idea what's going on...

Mmmm, no. Sorry I don't think you have trust. I think this is the main issue right there. If you had trust then you wouldn't over imagine, you wouldn't build scenarios in your head because your trust for the person would terminate all of them from the moment of their inception. On some level you don't trust her. Why is that? Is she not trust worthy? Have you had this problem in any other relationships?

Trust means, "I can put my gf in the most sleaziest disgusting club on the planet and know for 100% nothing will happen". Because I know there is something rooted deep inside of this person that will never go for betrayal. I won't imagine any scenarios, they won't be part of my perception. That's a very powerful certainty. This is trust.

[Junket]

I love the people that come in with "no I still trust them...I'm just insecure" or "I trust that she won't suck any dick...I just don't trust that this guy's dick will innocently slip in her mouth."

[MadKat]

Mmmm, no. Sorry I don't think you have trust. I think this is the main issue right there. If you had trust then you wouldn't over imagine, you wouldn't build scenarios in your head because your trust for the person would terminate all of them from the moment of their inception. On some level you don't trust her. Why is that? Is she not trust worthy? Have you had this problem in any other relationships?

Trust means, "I can put my gf in the most sleaziest disgusting club on the planet and know for 100% nothing will happen". Because I know there is something rooted deep inside of this person that will never go for betrayal. I won't imagine any scenarios, they won't be part of my perception. That's a very powerful certainty. This is trust.

Perhaps my trust is only at certain level...
My past relationship also did occurred to me before, about this insecure issue, but as i said not this major.

There's 1 thing that always being played in my mind, from my past relationship till current, and maybe future if i don't get it fix.
I simply don't trust her males friend, especially those that shown interest in her. Though she did convince me that she rejected him, draw the line, but they still keep in touch and remain as friends. I guess this bothers me a lot, and yeah, this issue happened in my every relationship. This is the root, i believe...

Oh, I do have hobby, plenty indeed.